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Help! My rp partner hasn't invited me to play our OTP in their game! (´･ω･`)

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i'm always surprised yoko taro catches all the praise he does and almost no shit

he makes some excellent games, though not without their flaws, but my impression of the man himself is someone I wouldn't want to know

If you want to play a trans version of a character in a meme or a PSL, you're free to do so. Nobody's going to stop you.

Playing a character with a trans headcanon in a game is generally frowned upon because most games are 'canon versions only' and unless the canon specifically says they're trans (or supplemental materials or an author note says they're trans) then you start to get into the realm of "well this isn't strictly canon, and we don't allow for AUs." Characters who show strong signs of being trans but who aren't specifically confirmed as trans (think like how Haruhi from Ouran shows signs of being nonbinary but it isn't specifically confirmed, Haruhi just says "I don't care, call me whatever" a couple times) could possibly be accepted too, but you would want to ask the mods first before apping a character in that situation.

But besides that, a trans headcanon is different enough from canon to count as an AU, so you would need to app the character to a game that allows AUs to have them in with a trans headcanon.

In the future if the 'delete so I can fix a thing' happens, just go ahead and respond again after they edit or after they tell you "ok go ahead". You won't be able to repost the tag exactly as it was written before, so changing a few small things (like leaving out a comma, or adding a couple words) will be needed.

That's the only thing I can think of that you did 'wrong' here? And it wasn't even really wrong, it was just asking for clarification. I'd say it's not your fault, anon.

I imagine the person with spoilery icons did put "SPOILERS FOR X" in their tag.

Funnily enough, transpeople and enbies don't have a monopoly on finding it mentally traumatizing to be misgendered

i lose years of my life anytime i see someone slap trans hcs on characters like sakura oogami or samus aran or pidge. you are not being the ~progressive person~ you think you are. you are actually being regressive and enforcing harmful gender stereotypes.

i'm a cis bi woman and i've been misgendered a lot. it doesn't make me rage out or anything, but i'm a tall, large breasted, long haired person that gets addressed as 'sir' from behind a lot because i wear baseball hats and jeans. my dress style, preference, and overall demeanor has had more than one 'are you sure you're a girl?' tossed at me. being a tomboy or not being girly girl doesn't negate that i'm female. i'm not trans because i have masculine tendencies.

(not saying that that's not how some transgenders come to that discovery or that it's not legit, but it's awfully demeaning to be told you must be a guy or 'you were born in the wrong body, even with tits like that' because you're not feminine enough. enough for who?)

almost more of a joy by now than a woe, but this would def feel misplaced in the rp joys thread, so it'll go here.

I've stopped rping for a few months and I feel so much better. it's put into perspective how many bad mental pitfalls I'd fallen into with rp (feeling obligated to tag ppl I found boring just bc they were polite and weren't wankers, constantly catering to what other people wanted, getting iced out of segments of the canons I played from when I tried reaching out to castmates, not clicking with commonly-assumed fanon that other castmates would approach me with but still feeling obligated to give strangers what I assumed they wanted, thinking I needed 20+ threads at a time to avoid accusations of being insular, etc).

Some of it was my own poor mental health, some of it was anons, but all of it was affecting me irl and in my hobby and wasn't good for me. I'm the happiest I've been in years now that i don't rp anymore. I'm hoping to slowly ease back into it with a handful of trusted friends for PSLs, and that's it for now. And I'm really glad I did that.

To anyone else struggling with big issues in rp...taking a break really can help! And maybe you'll want to come back full throttle bc you still click with the hobby, which is great! For me I don't anymore, and that's also fine.

In rp woes bc "I'm way happier with rp out of my life" still seems like it ought to go here. Posting here bc i can't really tell my entire Plurk friend list that I'm so much happier not tagging them, but I wanted to get this off my chest somewhere.

"some transgenders"

just fyi, it's "some transgender people". we're people just like you, not a different species.

i don't think you ever really "get over it", but i think it can become less intense over time if you start employing thinking habits now. we always want to be someone's number one, right? it's very human to want to feel like you belong, and to belong to someone that you value.

like what other anons have said, when i feel this way, i try and take a breather and tag other people. sometimes it comes from the fact that i'm tagging one person and putting all my eggs in that one basket. becoming hyperfocused on one person can feel great, but i feel like you put a lot of unfair pressure on not only them but yourself. tag around, tag others, and don't do it in response to your friend tagging others. you need to tag others because you want to. (i've found this was a super important distinction because it cuts out resentment if you branch out to other people because you want to.)

fact check your thoughts like you already are. your friend wouldn't tag you for months if they didn't enjoy you. they wouldn't ask you for new stuff or be chomping at the bit to do more with you! remember that your friend shows you your their favorite person in different ways to how you would show them. (we often take for granted the fact that someone is still here and still engaging as not a sign that we're a favorite!)

sometimes it also helps to simply not go looking for their threads. if you're doing that, stop! focus on you! that's energy that you're not putting back into yourself and you're the one who's losing out on that.

maybe even talk to your friend and simply say "i'm really enjoying threading with you". you may find that your friend has been dying to tell you that, too. sometimes a mere compliment can provide your friend with an opportunity to tell you how much they're enjoying you.

be appreciative of the people who tag you, especially your friend. even go as far as writing down what you appreciated about them every day. you'll start to begin seeing the ways your friend shows you that they adore you and favor you.

remember that the days where you find you can't fact check your thoughts or where you start to feel a little down about it is okay. we're all human. sometimes some days are easier than others. just remember to be kind to yourself. this is so important! let yourself mope and then five minutes later, get back on the horse again and start seeing the forest for the trees.

if you have a trusted friend, talk to them about how you feel! like what you've done with anons here, finding out what other people do and implementing a version for yourself can be so helpful.

and remember you're not alone. this helped me so much when i began to fact check and question my own feelings about this. everyone else feels it. everyone else has felt it. when you start to feel like your friend may not like you, take a moment to remember that you are not the only person feeling this. it does help contextualize it for me.

i hope something in what i've written here has helped you, anon. ♥

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oh fuck off, you know that's not what they were implying

+1 that's cute

> Once a comment has been replied to, it is uneditable even if all replies to it are deleted.

Hey, this is not true. A comment is editable if there are no replies to it. The only comments that cannot be edited are anon ones.

I have had a couple times where I deleted a tag for someone to edit or asked them to delete for myself.

i am so burnt.

trying to set up scenes with people is absolute agony. i play a popular character and should be grateful for getting any traction at all, but i stg every reply i get is enthusiastic but so, so empty. "i want to do all the things!" means less than nothing at this point.

how can so many people post that they're desperately seeking a specific character, yet when i approach they have no concrete ideas what they want their character and mine to do? ok, whatever. i offer a few options for plots, and then they repeat that they want to do "all the things!" this back and forth slowly leads to me whittling down the expansiveness of "all the things!" to a something workable, which also means i'm the one who does the starter. ok again.

but because this other shmuck didn't communicate their desires with any more effort than someone pointing at a mcdonalds menu and grunting, it's not exactly the starter they imagined, so they sit on it for a week and a half while they try and digest the perfect reply.

aaaaaaAAAAAAAAAAAHH

+1

it used to be the case that it was unable to be edited even if the response was deleted, but this got fixed a while ago. you may have to reload a few times depending on how janky your browser cookies are, is all.

I've actually given up any time someone says this. It's so broad and unspecific that now I just write any vague starter/scenario that comes to mind based around whatever loose topic we were talking about.

They obviously aren't interested in plotting things out anyway so if they think the starter isn't something they want then that's on them for not actively communicating.

I want to play a scene where a girl is restrained and forced to cum over and over again until she begs for it to stop, and then she's forced to keep right on doing it. All specifics outside of that are 100% up for negotiation, but forced orgasms-as-torture is ultimately the idea, here.

Preference is drawn PBs, and I could play either end of this with a preference for the one on the receiving end. Feel free to shoot me a PM if interested!

I'm sorry anon, I know how this feels. it's so annoying. these days if someone is doing "all the things!" at me over and over while plotting I just stop going to them for plots or agreeing to do things with them unless they give me an actual idea.

this is also why I've stopped overtly offering starters. now I'll either point them at my catch all and say "put something in here if you want a thing!" or discuss them privately with people I know who aren't going to jerk me around. saves a lot of time.

>i'm a cis bi woman

>some transgenders

That anon didn't call herself a cis, which would be the equivalent of referring to transgender people as transgenders. No need to be so hostile, especially when it was most likely an honest mistake and the other anon was being perfectly civil with their correction. It's my hope people might choose to learn from their mistakes when they're pointed out.

Just tell them to write the starter since they "want to do all the things".

Obviously they won't write it but at least you didn't waste time on it.

What was the most OOC tag you've ever written? Confess your sins.

when someone makes a mistake with their language that can be seen to be offensive or harmful to other people (dehumanising trans people is harmful) then it's acceptable to politely point out that mistake and ask them to correct that language

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