rpanons | Help! My rp partner hasn't invited me to play our OTP in their game! (´･ω･`)

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i don't think you ever really "get over it", but i think it can become less intense over time if you start employing thinking habits now. we always want to be someone's number one, right? it's very human to want to feel like you belong, and to belong to someone that you value.

like what other anons have said, when i feel this way, i try and take a breather and tag other people. sometimes it comes from the fact that i'm tagging one person and putting all my eggs in that one basket. becoming hyperfocused on one person can feel great, but i feel like you put a lot of unfair pressure on not only them but yourself. tag around, tag others, and don't do it in response to your friend tagging others. you need to tag others because you want to. (i've found this was a super important distinction because it cuts out resentment if you branch out to other people because you want to.)

fact check your thoughts like you already are. your friend wouldn't tag you for months if they didn't enjoy you. they wouldn't ask you for new stuff or be chomping at the bit to do more with you! remember that your friend shows you your their favorite person in different ways to how you would show them. (we often take for granted the fact that someone is still here and still engaging as not a sign that we're a favorite!)

sometimes it also helps to simply not go looking for their threads. if you're doing that, stop! focus on you! that's energy that you're not putting back into yourself and you're the one who's losing out on that.

maybe even talk to your friend and simply say "i'm really enjoying threading with you". you may find that your friend has been dying to tell you that, too. sometimes a mere compliment can provide your friend with an opportunity to tell you how much they're enjoying you.

be appreciative of the people who tag you, especially your friend. even go as far as writing down what you appreciated about them every day. you'll start to begin seeing the ways your friend shows you that they adore you and favor you.

remember that the days where you find you can't fact check your thoughts or where you start to feel a little down about it is okay. we're all human. sometimes some days are easier than others. just remember to be kind to yourself. this is so important! let yourself mope and then five minutes later, get back on the horse again and start seeing the forest for the trees.

if you have a trusted friend, talk to them about how you feel! like what you've done with anons here, finding out what other people do and implementing a version for yourself can be so helpful.

and remember you're not alone. this helped me so much when i began to fact check and question my own feelings about this. everyone else feels it. everyone else has felt it. when you start to feel like your friend may not like you, take a moment to remember that you are not the only person feeling this. it does help contextualize it for me.

i hope something in what i've written here has helped you, anon. ♥

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