Makin' my blorbos smooch is what gets me through the hard times

[socksuke_uchiha]

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Re: +1

[(Anonymous)]

White lies are absolutely a necessity in this hobby, people are quite emotionally volatile, and most of us don't know each other THAT well.

na

[(Anonymous)]

they are absolute not lmao

i said this in the last post already but there's a boogeyman in rp about the "oh no how people will react to that!!!!" which is bullshit. people think two or three whiners on anon comms represent the community and it's just that, a tiny loud minority. most people don't care about what you're doing and are happily tagging away, and precisely because they're happily tagging they aren't here complaining about it

remember, we only see the plane crashes on the news, not the thousands of planes that take off safely every day

Re: na

[(Anonymous)]

absolutely foolish to think people are talking about anons and not from personal experience

ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

same shit. they've met a whiner once and suddenly that's the end of the world

Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

this answer does not convince me

Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

+1 I want to live in the alternate universe ayrt inhabits where socially maladjusted weirdos aren't painfully common in this hobby

Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

but that's the thing, anon: you don't cross the gate unless you start sidestepping white lies in favor of mature, honest communication. yes, the occasional weirdo and dwrp karen still saunters in, but being clear-cut exorcises them. what is the worst dwrp karen can do to you? start a guilt-trippy passive/actively aggressive tirade that you either a) interrupt if on discord or b) read once in a pm and in both cases respond to with 'it sounds as if i'm not able to meet your threading needs, so i'm happy to put our outstanding threads to bed. thanks for playing with me so far, and let's be in touch if we need to handwave future interaction.'

Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

right. tell that to every player who tried "mature, honest communication" with a wankgate regular, promptly had their name dragged all over the comm in revenge and had to learn that even if you're 100% in the right, and even if the majority takes your side and calls grudgewank, your name still got dragged and you will see people avoid you because of it. i'm not even going to name examples because i'm sure every single person reading this, ayrt included, can think of a half dozen or more of them. all it takes is getting on the wrong side of a gsai or a koko.

Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

> you will see people avoid you because of it.

good. why would i want to play with people who go to wankgate?

Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

this is one of the only universally good points in this thread

Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

my guy, i've been living like this for years without trouble. can a gsai or koko or whoever happen to me? yes. a meteor can also decide it didn't have enough fun with the dinosaurs. but statistically, you are not highly probable to run into them. the fact that you are heatedly running to a worst-case scenario instead of trying the mature and healthy route unfortunately speaks a bit about you and your mindset, and i genuinely hope you arrive in a space where you feel secure and confident enough to explore options.

Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

>the fact that you are heatedly running to a worst-case scenario instead of trying the mature and healthy route unfortunately speaks a bit about you and your mindset

right? imagine using gsai as an example of anything. honestly that name should become our equivalent of godwin's law

Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

who is koko

the na from above

[(Anonymous)]

they aren't painfully common, in over ten years of rp and hundreds of plurk friends, i can count with one hand the times i've had trouble, and that hand is missing a finger. those few whiners were blocked and i moved on. and it's not just personal experience ether, i see people on bakertreet with preference posts listing things that we aren't """""supposed to say aloud"""""" all the time

if 90% of your rp partners are bitching at you, you may be the problem

Re: the na from above

[(Anonymous)]

I hope you realize that this many of you taking the most tepid "there are a lot of weirdos in this hobby" personally and viciously freaking out in response does not, in fact, inspire confidence

ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

multiple people disagreeing with you is not "freaking out". what do you expect to post opinions in a public space and only get empty +1s?

nayrt

[(Anonymous)]

as one of the other anons in this threads advocating for people to try honest communication and boundary setting to facilitate a healthier environment, i'd be keen if you can flag where else i or others are "freaking out."

Re: the na from above

[(Anonymous)]

"""viciously"""

Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

ngl the most maladaptive weirdos i've run into this hobby are exactly the types who justify making up white lies to protect themselves, if only because they end up getting very defensive when others decide they aren't worth the effort to wait for tags on.

there are much more well-adjusted, understanding people here than anons believe.

Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

yes, this. the maladaptive weirdos are precisely the cowards who don't speak up. it's the opposite of giving you a hard time.

Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

+1 in my experience, it's the white lie people that are prone to freaking out, whether going to wankgate or shitting on people behind their backs

ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

speaking from personal experience, and seeing comments like yours... yeah, people are odd here. it's safer to just back off gracefully and allow both parties to save face rather than initiating confrontation with people you know through plurk in a casual writing hobby. grow up a lil bit maybe anon... your feelings and ego aren't as important as you think.

Re: +1

[(Anonymous)]

+1

the old bowl of m&m's but one is poisoned thing

Re: +1

[(Anonymous)]

ah yes

the argument commonly used by chuds to justify transphobia and xenophobia

ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

anon, hopefully this doesn't come off accusatory: the reality of white lies in an environment as low-stakes as dwrp is that it's a tool for those who default to assuming and avoiding conflict. it's absolutely fine if you need to deploy it, because you are the steward of your mental health - it's just ultimately something you have to bear in mind may put off people like me, who don't really have the time or inclination to entertain insincerity. i'm too old for it, and i like to prioritize honest communication with my rp partners and to assume they have the maturity to bear it - or to cut them off, if they prove otherwise.

i'm sure you won't exactly die without my tags (or without those of people who share my opinion), but that's all i'm getting at. white lies don't come without a cost.