Makin' my blorbos smooch is what gets me through the hard times

[socksuke_uchiha]

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Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

multiple lightning fast replies leaping straight to personal attacks and "you must be ontologically evil if you have a different experience than me" is not giving well-adjusted and normal, chief, idk what to tell you

Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

only one answer has a personal attack ("if 90% of your rp partners are bitching at you, you may be the problem"). everyone else is being perfectly civil. you're only proving anons' point by exaggerating people's reactions when it's actually nothing.

"multiple lightning fast"
oh no people are online at the same time. how dare they. ah, but if you come back to a anon thread days later, you're a loser that can't let go. i'll never understand what anons think the right amount of minutes is to reply to a thread

sa

[(Anonymous)]

also i just noticed you said viciously freaking out which is just insane. the anon who said the weirdos are the ones who white-lie because they can't deal with people's reactions may be onto something.

Re: sa

[(Anonymous)]

sorry for using the wrong adjective to describe people immediately jumping into attack mode to try and justify themselves I guess?

you're still doing it btw

Re: sa

[(Anonymous)]

again, people disagreeing with you =/= attack mode

people seeing a thread and deciding to participate =/= "immediately jumping"

you're also justifying yourself. you're also replying fast. you're just trying to distract from the point with the equivalent of "u mad"

funny how you're ignoring the anon who asked you for specific examples of people freaking out

Re: sa

[(Anonymous)]

I dont even need to provide specific examples when you're right here

Re: sa

[(Anonymous)]

waiting anon here: the anon you're referencing wasn't engaging you at the time when you made a sweeping comment about all of us.

i'd be keen to see any examples from prior to the timestamp of your comment - or an honest acknowledgement that maybe you jumped the gun a little with that descriptor.

Re: sa

[(Anonymous)]

they were engaging me, actually

that was me responding to them being weird at me, specifically

https://rpanons.dreamwidth.org/97045.html?thread=280529429#cmt280529429 and this is just the same "actually YOU'RE the terrible person" dressed up in more polite terms

ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

anon, i think you're underestimating the number of us who are commenting with an alternative point of view to yours. i don't think that's them, though rpanonmods can always intervene, since they can see ips.

Re: sa

[(Anonymous)]

that's not a personal attack. they're using the same logic that the anons that started everything used as a way to make a point.

first anons: if i don't use white lies, all the weirdos in this hobby react badly
this anon: ime the weirdos are the ones making the lies not the other way around

everyone here is using the same tone and sharing their experiences. everyone is using the word weirdo and similar to describe the situation. you can't call only half of the argument "personal attack" or "freaking out"

Re: sa

[(Anonymous)]

speaking practically, as one of the anons who's been in favor of direct, honest communication: if people don't see a merit in it, or aren't in a mindspace where they feel comfortoable or confident enough to resort to that yet, they're entitled to defend their mental health and use what social defense mechanisms work for them. i don't think there's any benefit in trying to nag someone into submission, because we're each on our own journey with this stuff.

i just dislike the conceit that everyone who advocates for transparency and healthy communication has to be either a single anon or actually trying to attack everyone else off a high horse. it diminishes the number of us who actually want honest communication and boundaries and discourages other people from considering that direction.

Re: sa

[(Anonymous)]

iiiii am the op anon in that thread and tbh i just happened to check my phone during my break and responded to that when i saw it and walked away so i am just seeing this now

also i used the same term the person i replied to used so if they had used another term i'd have also just followed that

Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

"nobody is jumping to personal attacks except one person, ignore that other one and also *immediately jumps to another personal attack*"

since we're being personal about it, you have the kind of frenetic interrogative energy that suggests to me that I would probably just stop tagging you instead of deal with all that. gonna go tag my normal rp partners who aren't weird now

Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

how is someone saying "you're proving their point" a personal attack? and how are the others being weirdos for saying these things but you are fine for calling this thread "vicious" and "weirdos"? what in god's name is this logic?

Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

"there are a lot of weirdos in this hobby" is not the same statement as "you, personally, are a weirdo," but the fact that you think it is explains why no one wants to communicate with you

this is me matching your energy, btw

Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

but you didn't attack only me. you complained about (direct quote) "this many of you". and you are still only ignoring the other anon who asked you for examples of people supposedly freaking out.

Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

Im assuming that anon is you at this point so here

https://rpanons.dreamwidth.org/97045.html?thread=280528661#cmt280528661
https://rpanons.dreamwidth.org/97045.html?thread=280529429#cmt280529429 --> this is the same thing as the first one just worded more faux politely

I feel like I don't need to link the rest for obvious reasons

Anyway, I advocate communicating with people who seem normal (some people) and absolutely just ghosting people who give off weird vibes (a hell of a lot of other people), hth

Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

think we're going to have to agree to disagree, because i don't see the first comment you linked as attacking anyone. the second one, i guess i can see people taking issue with the word maladaptive - though notably was still not an attack at anyone in the thread.

Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

and i'm not ayrt, forgot to add.

Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

no, that anon is not me. only one subthread is mine. rpa mod is free to check ips if that's what it takes to make you believe that multiple people disagree with you

how are those people freaking out? i'm not even trying to argue, i'm genuinely confused. do you think hyperbole is freaking out now?

Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

unsure if you don't know what hyperbole means or if this is a "hyperbole for me but not for thee" situation

ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

not really. i don't mind people being a bit hyperbolic but this argument started precisely because anons are saying "no i wasn't exaggerating the hobby truly is FULL of weirdos. so many of them that white lies are the only way to communicate"

Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

you're one of the weird vibe people hth

Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

My bad, I thought we were matching each other's freak

Re: ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

as the second anon linked, to be fair i wasn't really even trying to be polite. i just used the same wording in the comment i replied to and mentioned my experience.

there are two sides of a coin and i get both sides, but i also get why people won't want to be on the other side either.