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I often play caretaker types - the stable influence who does everything practical and mundane, and often the emotional heavy lifting - against really chaotic genius types in ships, which can be fun, especially in certain types of playful threads, or action ones, where they both show off their qualities.

But sometimes it's really challenging with deep emotional shippy threads, where the chaotic genius character asks why my character loves them or something along those lines. I know love doesn't come with conditions, and it's not all that deep in these sorts of things, but just thinking about the imbalances in these things makes me exhausted. "Yeah, I'll do everything, including reminding you to eat and drink water, while you sit and be lazy and look pretty because I love you" is not appealing to write (to me; I am sure there are people out there who find that enjoyable to write). Especially since it often sounds like the chaotic genius loves the caretaker sort because of everything they do.

I could easily solve this (I think) by asking for a hurt/comfort scene with the roles flipped, and having deep emotional talks there, but that's another challenge (h/c threads are a challenge for me).

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As someone who plays a more chaotic genius type I'd absolutely want to show some love to my ship partner in a scene where the roles were flipped! Honestly, I try to have my chaotic genius slow down on occasion and realize the effort others are putting into both romantic relationships and friendships (it is IC for the character too). If you have trouble asking for h/c maybe you could ask for a moment like that, of spontaneous acknowledgment/appreciation?

That's a good idea, thank you, anon. I think I should probably ask for some spontaneous appreciation, it might go over easier for me/in threads.

It is usually IC for the chaotic geniuses to recognize the efforts their friends put in, and I really do enjoy that aspect.

Ayrt

I used to play a caretaker type and got very burned out on the character (haven’t picked them back up though it’s been years) when it became clear a lot of the ic “work” was just thankless and wouldn’t be appreciated so I get it from both sides! If you otherwise like the character advocate for yourself now before that happens. You deserve to have threads that are rewarding to you and for the attention paid to be mutual. Good luck anon

i feel you anon. i don't play the caretaker types, but i'm not a fan of one-sided h/c or writing threads like that. i'm a fan of showing, not telling, and while i get the emotionally constipated, processes 1 emotion at time type (and enjoy playing them) i think my approach would be having the character devote time to observing the other one precisely because they don't understand what the other person is doing

think something like, noticing the other character has picked up around them, brings them meals at a certain time, or if they try to balance the nutrition of meals or bring them what they like, noticing that stuff and marking it in a journal like it's some kind of science experiment (sorry). then observing them leads to noticing more of their habits or personality. the color of their eyes, the way their hair looks under the light (or the shine of their bald head because, hey man, why not. appreciate that dome! maybe they have an attractive skull)! the way they smile. if they have scars on their hands, leading them to wonder where they came from

tl;dr noticing what they do leads to noticing them as a person and appreciating them for that

then again i've never liked "why do you love me" irl or in rp, i understand where it comes from and all, and if that's what someone likes then that's great. i just prefer writing the genius types noticing the behavior and going through the scientific method on their own to figure it out instead of asking out loud

ah. i see. i played myself. now i'm thinking about sir chaos being the type to sketch his own schematics for idk whatever the fuck and trying to draw the smile to get it out of his head, but it never looks right. cause he's not an artist, he just doodles like screws and bolts and shit so it's shitty and blocky and wrong. but also cause he's an idiot trying to draw from memory. so he studies the other person's face whenever he sees them

or getting way too intense and putting too much of attention on the other character after being useless up until then

time to purge my brain by playing video games

I'm not a fan of those questions in irl or RP, but I recognize where they come from and the need, so I don't mind. But when it's like this, so imbalanced where it feels like I'm writing all the emotional things, or all of the caretaking, I get frustrated or annoyed or exhausted from the thread which I don't want to do.

I really like your suggestion of the steering at noticing and all! (And your other comment about noticing their smile and trying to draw it and watching ... That is so good, I'd love a thread like that.) I think if I pick up one of the chaotic genius sort. I don't think I could suggest that to a partner without giving myself away, so I'll hope they read and notice it and incorporate it into what they write. I am glad to know the other side wants to express their love too, though.

yeah, i can understand them from a few different angles. it isn't as if there's no place for those kinds of questions, but it helps to have established a very solid dynamic before they come out. that way someone isn't just drawing on, "you're pretty." i guess thinking about it though, it'd be fun for me if the caretaker did realize, "huh? is that it?" and started reconsidering everything they're doing, or pulling away

anyway i'll keep my fingers crossed for you anon!! lemmie share another brainworm i had before i distracted myself: thinking about how the absence of the caretaker character might affect the chaotic genius too. like, they're used to the other character bringing them something at a certain time (water, tea, coffee) and have started casually reaching over without looking. the other character isn't there for some reason or doesn't bring anything (bad day? choosing not to do it because they're emotionally fatigued from getting little back?), only to either find nothing or a cold drink when they expected a hot one. this prompts a very mixed reaction, them longing for the other person or wondering what happened

it'd be fun for me if the genius specifically set out to look for them, or if they waited. in the second case, getting nothing done but pretending they did when the other character showed up (but it being very obvious they did not. computer screen blank, paper with nothing on it or idle tic-tac-toe games), then deciding they want to go out... and happen to want to go somewhere they know is the caretaker's favorite place

tl;dr i like things..........

i can sock up and you can throw the character at me as a rec and i can see if i get into them, since all this is just my general brainworms of stuff i like without a clear character in mind. like 90% guaranteed i will have no idea what thread you're talking about because i'm psl only

^ me, i socked

have you heard about Pluto?

that's messed up

thank you i can go to bed happy

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