Makin' my blorbos smooch is what gets me through the hard times

[socksuke_uchiha]

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[(Anonymous)]

Sometimes I wonder if I'm the weird one for not really caring when a game I join, no matter how I enjoy it, implodes on itself due to any reason. I've met people who still say they have trauma from jgk implosion or have people act like losing a game means they lose a part of themselves and all I can think of is they can always join another game.

I feel the same way about threads ending or losing long-term rp partners to other fandoms or fallouts. Maybe I've just been rping too long or I've been in too many games, but it just feels like these are things you just expect to happen and go ahead and enjoy the next thing.

[(Anonymous)]

while I agree with this, the lack of good games/non-private games has made this more difficult to deal with than in the past. I just want a game like holly heights that isn’t folkmore.

ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

that's also true. i guess my pespective is also skewed by the fact that i've never really struggled to find new games to join so i just don't see the need for a home game.

[(Anonymous)]

This pls

[(Anonymous)]

depending on how the drama goes down i can see having trauma. if there was harassment or bullying involved, just as an example

ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

i get this for bullying/harrassment definitely, but i guess it's more losing the home game feeling some people get? like they suddenly feel homeless because of it that i don't get, or the betrayal they feel when a game suddenly closes.

[(Anonymous)]

sunk cost oftentimes probs, esp if they've been in a game for a couple years or more. it's a lot of character development and relationship ties that just aren't gonna happen again in another game, so it can get hard to move on, especially if the closure was sudden and migrating wouldn't have been their choice

some people probably get fatigued having to either blank slate a previously established character or start the intro rigamarole with a new one over and over when migrating from new game to new game. craus aren't always accepted, and even if they are, it's not always guaranteed their prev game cr is coming along with them, plus the feel's gonna be different either way

personally i haven't tried to get into any new games since my last one closed a couple years ago, am just meme & psl only now. but this style of rp has its own limitations and does not replicate the community feeling of a game either, so it's not for everybody

[(Anonymous)]

i think it makes sense to be disappointed or a little sad but do often feel people are vastly overreacting to most game closures. it makes me uncomfortable how...vitriolic some people get at mods closing games even for just normal closure reasons, too.

[(Anonymous)]

for real, it's good to have a sense of perspective, nonny. it's not weird.

at the same time, don't forget that other people may be far more invested in the game than you are. whether in a good way or a bad way. maybe they've been in it for many years, it's their home game, so it feels like they're losing a home. maybe they have no other hobbies and have hinged all their joy on this one thing. hell, right now I can see overreacting to a game closure being the only way they can express how they feel about the state of the world.

there was a time when I'd stay in big long-running games for up to 5 years, and closure was quite a blow especially if it was over drama instead of just fizzling out. but games don't last long enough to get invested these days, so I'm with you. shrug and move on.

[(Anonymous)]

I do expect these things to happen, but over the years I have also been fortunate enough to establish roots in games that last 3-5 years. That's a good amount of time to get comfortable with a game, its plot/setting, and the characters that dip in and out. It's also easier with players you know decently, as their individual likes and dislikes make it easy to identify who is down for what and plot accordingly. I get a lot of varied CR that way and know who would be interested in doing what with me.

That said, for the past three years I haven't been able to find a game that lasts longer than 3-6 months, and it's wearing on me badly. So now I don't care if the game I join implodes, but it also makes it extremely difficult to get invested :(

[(Anonymous)]

I care, it makes me sad, but before long that passes and I'm just like "aww" if I'm reminded of it. I hope when people say "trauma" they mean just some intensification of that.

long term RP partners though it feels worse, bc I usually end up friends with them and inevitably when they shift fandoms we don't talk as much. I just try to make myself a space to be privately sad until I'm on a more even keel, then.