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Help! My rp partner hasn't invited me to play our OTP in their game! (´･ω･`)

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continue to tag them, plot with them lightly, etc. let them know they are still wanted and you do want to play with them. but don't engage in any plots or deeper cr developments that might be dependent on them. this lets them continue to enjoy things at their own pace but doesn't potentially put you out (which would make them fret/feel guilty even more).

tl;dr be cool about it. don't over think what they're doing, just focus on what you need to do to keep having fun. either they will come around or they won't. rp is not a big deal, even if their brain is fretting and making it one or unfortunate external circumstances are making rp difficult for them in the interim.

just offer to handwave anything they're struggling with. that way you won't be waiting around for tags and they can take some stuff off their plate. and reassure them that you're open to doing things once they come back once they're less stressed out or busy.

in general the best way to deal with these things is to just communicate honestly, be kind, but also try not to worry too much about how they feel or what they're doing. you're not responsible for their emotions or how stressed out they are. just keep doing your own thing and either they'll sort things out or take a step back.

You sound like you've got a chip on your shoulder and it's possible that RP partners can read into that when you communicate with them.

I get that a lot of it is frustration and venting but it's pretty offputting.

i'm so glad i got the courage to tag you.

That's how I feel a lot of the times, which is why I wanted to know. I'm into a lot of extreme kinks, but while it's obvious you have to respect boundaries and warm for a lot of content, most people in DWRP either aren't interested or want to reveal they are into it.

As much as I would want extreme kinks to be more widespread and for players to be open and honest about liking them, I can see from the replies that this could cause a clash. DWRP considers boundaries incredibly important and demands people to respect etiquette of both boundaries and quality, and most players outside of DWRP would not fit in.

Sometimes I've wanted to invite some RP partners into this platform, but I think it'd have to be for a private game or some meme threads, instead.

I think you can still edit it but i dont remember getting notifs for ones ive posted anonymously

i've had my share of threads dropped on me but i also get plenty of good threads that go on for a while, so if you're constantly getting threaddropped or ghosted by everyone you try to play with, there's something deeper going on.

hello anons

i have a crush on a good friend I met through rp :( we're friends beyond rp now though.

im sure my feelings won't be reciprocated and it's not worth ruining the friendship. it sucks.

anyone else experience this? anyone have luck confessing? any words of warning to get me out of this funk?

if you confess and they don't feel the same way it will nuke the friendship

find something else to do/think about. talk to other people. it's normal to feel strongly about friends you care about and crushes happen, it's fine don't be ashamed about it, but if you don't want to potentially damage something good then you just need to give it time and try to move on

thanks for the advice nonnie! logically i know you're right.

Things like "You didn't sound Jewish enough" or "you did the thing I asked exactly like I wanted so I'm mad at you" is worth having a chip on their shoulder about. The first one is actually pretty gross so I have no clue why anyone is saying "maybe you're the problem." It sounds like the bitterness they have is a result of things that are reasonable to be bitter about.

Sometimes people just have bad luck. For instance, at one point during my time RPing I kept running into drama but it wasn't general drama or widespread drama around me. I would join a game, meet like 1 or 2 people I found really bitchy, get on their bad sides because when they were openly dickish I was the type to call them out, and then had to deal with them targeting me and some of their friends piling in. But it was only those specific players and only a small handful of only their friends.

It'd be easy to say I was the problem but it turned out by sheer dumb (bad) luck, over the course of a few games, I inadvertently wound up on a whistle-stop tour of a handful of RPs biggest wankers. It was only like 4 of them but these were some of the big name ones that eventually got run out of RP entirely. It completely stopped being a problem at one point when my bad luck streak just randomly ended (possibly because dwrp started mass banning wankers), and I found a solid group of nice people to consistently hang out with.

People like to throw blame but you know what? Life just is like that sometimes and there are a lot of flakes and petty people in rp. We've weeded out most of the big wankers but there are a lot of low grade dramatic people left. The fact that thread op's examples aren't super wanky and are just low grade dramatic fits dwrp's current patterns. And nobody should be telling someone who got "You're not Jew-ey enough" that they're the problem.

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it's nice to hear i don't feel alone, even if that's also a bummer in the same breath.

i wouldn't completely disparage against dwrp though. i think players outside of dwrp could fit in if given primers about kink lists and permissions and the importance of respecting them. even that would be a huge step in the right direction without being too overbearing to a newbie, i think.

i've been trying to Be The Change as we say around here and when i'm in sex games or on sex memes i am as honest as possible about the things in my yes/no columns, and try to reaffirm to other shy dwpers, yes, i really can and will write that super weird raunchy kink you're coyly batting your eyes at. when those thirsty thursday plurk memes roll around be open about stuff you've done or want to do. describe it! link threads! we have a culture of shyness here and i think the best thing to fight that is... just to not be as shy about it. show other people they aren't alone and it doesn't have to be weird and they aren't weird for liking weird. context matters, of course. don't push on someone obviously not interested or has it plain and clear in their 'no' column.

that said i hate to admit most of my raunchiest threads have still taken place in locked sex games, private games, memes, psls or otherwise with rp partners i've trusted for years to not get weird about weird kinks. it take a lot of wading and patience to find these circumstances. is it worth the frustration? imo, generally, yeah. i would try inviting people, just understand it's best to take it slow and hold their hand around here. there's times where i feel like ~weird kink people~ have to speak in code around here to find other weirdos but i would love it if we didn't and i would certainly appreciate any newbies who aren't already ingrained in that mentality.

one, you're projecting super hard

two, no one said the ~be more jew~ person wasn't an asshole. no one agrees with that person. that person sucks. take that person out of the equation because they aren't relevant to the overall point, which is this: if ALL of op's threads are being immediately dropped or ghosted no matter what character they try or whether they're anon or not (they mentioned posting in kywtp, which is generally anonymous) then chances are something big is going on

yes you can still get notifs for comments & kudos. you can also edit your fic. it's treated as part of an "anonymous" collection that you can remove from and re-add whenever you wish

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