it's nice to hear i don't feel alone, even if that's also a bummer in the same breath.
i wouldn't completely disparage against dwrp though. i think players outside of dwrp could fit in if given primers about kink lists and permissions and the importance of respecting them. even that would be a huge step in the right direction without being too overbearing to a newbie, i think.
i've been trying to Be The Change as we say around here and when i'm in sex games or on sex memes i am as honest as possible about the things in my yes/no columns, and try to reaffirm to other shy dwpers, yes, i really can and will write that super weird raunchy kink you're coyly batting your eyes at. when those thirsty thursday plurk memes roll around be open about stuff you've done or want to do. describe it! link threads! we have a culture of shyness here and i think the best thing to fight that is... just to not be as shy about it. show other people they aren't alone and it doesn't have to be weird and they aren't weird for liking weird. context matters, of course. don't push on someone obviously not interested or has it plain and clear in their 'no' column.
that said i hate to admit most of my raunchiest threads have still taken place in locked sex games, private games, memes, psls or otherwise with rp partners i've trusted for years to not get weird about weird kinks. it take a lot of wading and patience to find these circumstances. is it worth the frustration? imo, generally, yeah. i would try inviting people, just understand it's best to take it slow and hold their hand around here. there's times where i feel like ~weird kink people~ have to speak in code around here to find other weirdos but i would love it if we didn't and i would certainly appreciate any newbies who aren't already ingrained in that mentality.
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i wouldn't completely disparage against dwrp though. i think players outside of dwrp could fit in if given primers about kink lists and permissions and the importance of respecting them. even that would be a huge step in the right direction without being too overbearing to a newbie, i think.
i've been trying to Be The Change as we say around here and when i'm in sex games or on sex memes i am as honest as possible about the things in my yes/no columns, and try to reaffirm to other shy dwpers, yes, i really can and will write that super weird raunchy kink you're coyly batting your eyes at. when those thirsty thursday plurk memes roll around be open about stuff you've done or want to do. describe it! link threads! we have a culture of shyness here and i think the best thing to fight that is... just to not be as shy about it. show other people they aren't alone and it doesn't have to be weird and they aren't weird for liking weird. context matters, of course. don't push on someone obviously not interested or has it plain and clear in their 'no' column.
that said i hate to admit most of my raunchiest threads have still taken place in locked sex games, private games, memes, psls or otherwise with rp partners i've trusted for years to not get weird about weird kinks. it take a lot of wading and patience to find these circumstances. is it worth the frustration? imo, generally, yeah. i would try inviting people, just understand it's best to take it slow and hold their hand around here. there's times where i feel like ~weird kink people~ have to speak in code around here to find other weirdos but i would love it if we didn't and i would certainly appreciate any newbies who aren't already ingrained in that mentality.