socksuke_uchiha ([personal profile] socksuke_uchiha) wrote in [community profile] rpanons2019-08-04 10:25 am

my werewolf had a buttpuppy

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Re: +1

(Anonymous) 2019-08-15 07:45 am (UTC)(link)
i think this can get a little weird if ppl go "no adults should ever interact with kids ever" because at some point you have to interact with strangers and learn to judge them like...yes, of course not everyone you meet will be good. it's important to learn how to figure it out, often with help from your family and closer friends but like...

i might not stay in a discord with 13yos because I don't have much interest in ooc chat but the mere assumption you're making here that it should be weird for people of different ages to interact or share space online at all is kind of imo a little strange? The internet encompasses a great many people. So do normal social clubs. Like I'm in a knitting group with people who are older and younger alike. It would be weird to discourage kids from joining just because most of the knitters are adults or to side eye a kid or adult who joined that sort of mundane hobby just bc the majority of the group wasn't their age.

obviously grooming kids is bad and stuff but you're like conflating normal interactions at all with absolutely being that or opening them up to it while i'd argue scare tactics to kids about every adult is out to get you is, uh, bad?

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(Anonymous) 2019-08-15 07:49 am (UTC)(link)
i guess i'd understand if it was some kind of supervised situation or i knew these kids in literally any other way? people keep talking about other hobbies but i'd be just as confused about a parent being cool with having a 28 year old join the bowling team or knitting group their kid is in that had an average age of 15 until a minute ago, without like... vetting them somehow first.

i guess my problem is that there's no vetting process? yeah they definitely need to interact with adults and i'm not saying they shouldn't, but it should be in a way that's safe, and like... inviting adults to your discord rp server isn't a safe/controlled way to interact with grownups socially.

i'll be the first to admit that being groomed as a kid colors my perception on this though so ymmv

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(Anonymous) 2019-08-15 07:55 am (UTC)(link)
i mean...

there's no vetting process for like anything to the degree you're talking about unless the parents in question micromanage every aspect of their child's life? or just don't let them do any hobbies that involve other people.

or...don't let them online at least i guess at the very least?

i'm mostly finding it weird that you'd also judge other people for not particularly minding interacting with younger folk. it seems to assume grooming is always going to take place or smth?

Re: +1

(Anonymous) 2019-08-15 08:04 am (UTC)(link)
i don't mind talking to them in general lmao, i chat with younger teens in other servers all the time, i just think rping with them knowing their ages is weird.

i did also say that i literally had that happen to me and therefore know how incredibly easy it would be so? my bad if i'm a little over-vigilant about it? question mark? i'd rather let kids know that they can have their own social spaces and that they don't have to invite us into them.

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(Anonymous) 2019-08-15 08:13 am (UTC)(link)
in the scenario op gave the kids knew their ages and invited them, though. i think it's fine for op to be uncomfortable and leave, but weird to insist spaces kids invite older people into should be kids only?

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(Anonymous) 2019-08-15 08:53 am (UTC)(link)
i might not call it a vetting process, but there is often something that achieves the same effect. most clubs i've seen are specifically broken up by age groups/experience, with the expectation that the kids groups are for kids and any adult beginners would instead join the regular beginners group. even if they aren't, the person running said club is probably an adult who's responsible for watching out for anything sketchy if they're in charge of a social group made up of both kids and adults. and even aside from all that, parents just have an easier time vetting things themselves without necessarily micromanaging their children. they're likely dropping their kids off and have an opportunity to talk to the adults in charge they're leaving their kids with.

there's a lot less in the way of creepy adults in online interactions. in a perfect world, parents would be monitoring their kid's online activity to watch out for anything dangerous, but it's easier and eaiser for kids to get online from all kind of devices and locations and thus harder and harder for parents to reliably know what their kids are doing.

Re: +1

(Anonymous) 2019-08-15 08:02 am (UTC)(link)
hmm, i'm not saying at all that it's weird for people of different ages to share spaces online in general–i'm talking about rp. to me the rp community is more insular and intimate than like, some random anonymous forum because of its nature as a shared writing hobby, and even adults can weirdly project their feelings onto other adults in it. people wank about that all the time. and lbr, a huge portion of the community IS centered around romance and smut and shipping, etc, and that's something that's not going to pop up in a knitting group, which doesn't really make it interchangeable–again, even if you're only rping gen stuff with the kids/teens, it's still happening there in the background, whether that means it's being referenced in anon comms, plurk, elsewhere in the game, etc. you WOULD have to tread lightly to make sure to keep it all separate–again, just to err on the side of caution–and while i could do that, what if someone else doesn't?

i just think it's so important to be safe rather than sorry about these things. maybe 9/10 kids would have a great experience rping with adults, but to me it's not worth it for the sake of that 1 who doesn't. that stuff has the potential to mess you up for life.

Re: +1

(Anonymous) 2019-08-15 08:10 am (UTC)(link)
when did you start rping, out of curiosity?

Re: +1

(Anonymous) 2019-08-15 08:12 am (UTC)(link)
back in the dark ages of invisionfree and avidgamers! so 10+ years ago about

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(Anonymous) 2019-08-15 08:13 am (UTC)(link)
i mean, how old were you at the time? and would you prefer then that you had waited until you were 18+ now?

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(Anonymous) 2019-08-15 08:17 am (UTC)(link)
i was young, and at least in my circles rp was younger in general then, so most of the people i rped with were other under-18s. there were a few adults, though. i don't think i should have waited, but i definitely wish that i'd only rped with people my own age. i ran into a few things with adults that i thought i was equipped to handle but looking back i absolutely wasn't, and i regret that.