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RP WOES

[(Anonymous)]

the agony of your jerk character predictably responding to something in a jerk fashion in a way that you know is going to generate negative cr with a character you want him to be friends with

i could make him be nice but it would be ooc!! :(

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[(Anonymous)]

i'm out in the cold looking into the windows of games wondering if they'll let me in to be warmed by their love

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[(Anonymous)]

i feel secretly hated and i don't know why

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[(Anonymous)]

my rp partner to my ship just fucked completely off which is fine live your best life but now i'm thirstin. i want cute cross-canon shippy stuff...

(lol i almost hit browse to select an icon for this anon comment. it's dangerous to stay logged in, friends}

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[(Anonymous)]

what kind of cute cross-canon shippy stuff are you thirstin for, anon

spill

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[(Anonymous)]

every flavor. gimme a taste. idk the ship was so out of the blue and adorable. just two animen with miles and miles of hair. i feel so exposed on flatview rn but i'll always live my truth.

my guy needs another sweet, patient fella to deal with his emotional nonsense.

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[(Anonymous)]

i know how you feel nonny, and it sucks. the same thing happened to me a while back and i really need to get over it because i keep missing new rp opportunities by constantly being hung up on that one cross-canon ship... but no matter how hard i try to stop going back to it, i'm thirstin. hang in there friend, i hope you can move on and find new cute ships to play!

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[(Anonymous)]

I'm bipolar and while it's pretty well controlled with meds, I'm getting all the worsening memory and concentration problems you sometimes get with it as you age. Combined with the natural decline you get with age, I can't really concentrate on anything anymore and my writing has gotten boring, flat, and clunky. It's all I can do just to function at my job and daily life. I still want to RP in games but know I can't mentally handle it now and since this stuff tends not to be reversible it means I might never be able to ever pick it up again. I barely have the mental oomph to manage one or two psls alongside RL.

RP is still fun but it's so hard on my brain that answering a few tags feels as mentally exhausting as taking a test or finishing some complicated assignment at work. I just wish it could be the way it used to be and that I could get my brain to work the way I want it to.

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[(Anonymous)]

Go talk to a doctor about this. Someone even on the high end of the age spectrum for DWRPers shouldn't be getting memory problems like this due to age, and if you are in your 20s or 30s it definitely is much too soon. Your meds could be one thing causing it, but there could also be something else involved that needs to be addressed.

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[(Anonymous)]

bummed about my otp white whale thread getting dropped. i shouldn't let it get to me because i've been ghosted on so many times so it shouldn't be a big deal anymore, but my anxiety latched on real hard to this and i just keep agonizing over all my tags and pms and picking apart every little thing i did that probably put my thread partner off.

i honestly don't blame them for disappearing. i'm positive at this point that finally getting to play this one thing made me too nervous and try too hard, so i probably came off like an awkward pushy dumbass without meaning to. i'm afraid to reach out to them again and potentially make it worse, but if they decided to ever come back i'd be happy to play with them again anytime.

i know i'm being stupid. i need to let it go and get over it because moping over the one that got away is making it hard for me to tag anything else even though i have other threads that are really good and wonderful rp partners.

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[(Anonymous)]

aw, anon. relax. it probably had less to do with you than you think. just keep pressin on. there's more fun out there to be had! stressin over stuff out of your control is just gonna keep you from finding your joy.

[(Anonymous)]

I feel bad because I've done this recently, even though the ship in question is also my OTP. In my case, it's because my grasp on my half of the pair was shaky at best to begin with, and I have a habit of agonizing over my tags when I feel like I'm struggling with a character voice to the point where I keep intending to respond, but continue to put it off because nothing sounds right.

I know that's a self-destructive behavior, and it's a bad habit, especially when it results in ghosting, but it really is a case of "it's not you, it's me."

Anyway, that's just my perspective from the other side of the same sort of situation. Sorry you're going through that, OP.

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[(Anonymous)]

your woe is my woe, OP. I've made peace with negative CR but some people really don't like it. I'm sorry he's a jerk.

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[(Anonymous)]

I’m super excited for this cross-canon ship thread but I’m afraid it’s gonna get dropped. Please friend, indulge me on this.

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[(Anonymous)]

i love cross-canon, anon. what canons?

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[(Anonymous)]

Found someone who played a rare character who was willing to ship with my character so we started a couple of meme threads together. Then they joined a game and while they encouraged me to join when I expressed possible interest, I wasn't ready to commit just yet. I told them this and while they seemed okay with it, they also happened to drop our threads to focus on their game threads. I keep hoping that maybe they'll respond to one of our old threads when their game stuff slows down, but I think since it's been over half a year that they most likely lost interest. My health is too poor to chase after them into this game so the most I can do is read over what little we did do and be happy for the opportunity I had to play with them while wishing them the best.

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[(Anonymous)]

I’m always afraid that I’m not that good of a writer. I have plenty of tags, but then my dumb ass gets self-conscious anyway, and I don’t like asking for ass pats. Obviously people wouldn’t tag with me if I was that shitty, but still.

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[(Anonymous)]

I'm hoping for some advice on this woe! I tend to have trouble not sounding accusatory or accidentally pa when approaching people when I have a problem. Currently someone I consider a close friend is tagging our (game) ship on average once a week, but sometimes less. They tag me plenty with their other characters in game and we talk every day plenty so it's not a problem with me or my writing I don't think?

They're regularly tagging other ships and talking about psl shipping with a mutual friend (which is how I noticed, there wasn't any stalking!) and they get multiple tags a day. It wouldn't be an issue if they weren't doing this to me since September if not earlier.

TL;dr, how do I ask them if they're still invested or if they might just be holding on for my interest? I miss plotting and talking about our ship and having fun with them. Also sorry if there are any typos, net's down today and I'm on my phone!

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[(Anonymous)]

I was recently in a pretty similar situation, nonny, and my advice is to try and open a dialogue about it without bringing any presumptions to the table. It's harder to sound accusatory if you're not assuming anything, you know? It's the difference between asking them what's up and asking them to confirm or deny what you think is up; the latter carries way more pressure with it.

But if you just say something like, 'hey, I've noticed that this ship has slowed down a bit lately, and I just wanted to check in and see how you were feeling about it?' That gives them more room to respond without adding the implicit guilt of 'are you just humoring me or what.'

Hope that helps. <3 It's a crummy boat to be in, for sure.

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[(Anonymous)]

i just started a new psl with my favorite rp partner after months of fizzled attempts and i'm worried they're going to flake on me again :(

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[(Anonymous)]

they will. there are only more flakes beneath the flakes

and they fall away

to reveal

more of the same...

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[(Anonymous)]

RP partner lost interest. One of my favorite threads, to boot.

feelsbadman.jpg

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[(Anonymous)]

i love all my threads but there’s one golden one that i’m enjoying immensely and it seems to be going the slowest

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[(Anonymous)]

Had an amazing thread with someone I'm not familiar with! They tagged consistently, wrote engaging replies, annnnnnd now they've disappeared off the face of the planet. Just my luck.

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[(Anonymous)]

for how long? :(