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i dont want to sound picky, prickly or whatever because i know you've all trying to help, but: i have social skills. i'm not a shut in. i didn't used to have this problem in being ignored so blatantly when i was in games years ago, and its sad that its assumed it must be my social problem

yes, i reply to other peoples plurks more than i make my own. i rarely complain, rant or be a debbie downer; i'm adult enough to turn off the computer if i am until its passed. i talk about rp, fandom, memes, CR, and even when i ping people because i'm talking about their characters, my plurks still go ignored. no, i've never been name-dropped either.

i think your comment has given me the answer though. i often look at my plurks from an outside perspective, i've asked trusted close friends if i'm doing something wrong to come off sounding like an ass and the answer is always no. for whatever stupid reason I'm not a fit or a part of these cliques. rather than feeling bad its probably time to ditch it

it might honestly just be shitty people on your friend list.

i personally enjoy plurk a lot and use it as my main social platform but i have a very small plurklist and it's comprised of people i do consider actual friends. i do non-rp things with a lot of them, but i also thread with them or chatter about our own cr consistently.

it's harder to do this when you have 50000 people added and are spreading yourself thin trying to make vague connections with anyone.

You mentioned that you're not in games right now. I find that plurk really changes when you're not actively playing in a game with others; they're busy keeping up with tags and often bringing up old games and CR brings out the nostalgia goggles at best.

I also found that it took a long time to work back up to in-game levels of chatting once I joined a new game. Plurk's a difficult networking source just for hanging out with friends, unfortunately.

thanks anon. yeah, joining a new game can make it difficult, i've seen that happen. mentioned below, my situation when taking what anons have said into account just seems weird. i got more plurk action when i wasn't in games, go figure. i am now but its a couple of small ones, which is probably the problem

basically this. the moment you drop your game, half (or more) of your timeline will unfollow you within days or weeks.

i apologize if anything i said came across as accusatory or implying that you are definitely the problem, full stop. it wasn't my intention. if i engage in these sorts of conversations, i always try to cover the bases, because frequently those are the issues, and a lot of people aren't aware of how often they're being negative or how difficult the things they talk about are to incorporate into a two-way conversation. i've seen a lot of it on my own timeline with people i like but find difficult to engage for various reasons.

if you've already done all of the above and it's really not a matter of social awkwardness, then yeah. it's the people you have on your list and that you're all a poor fit for each other, which sucks but sometimes happens.

you also said that you were in games years ago, implying that you aren't now? that could be a huge contributing factor. a lot of people don't or won't engage with people they're not in games with. their socializing on plurk, even the stuff that seems non game related, is still tangentially game related in that they're cultivating ooc relationships to maintain ic cr. you may have people like this on your timeline.

anyway, again sorry if i ruffled any feathers in my response to you. i was hoping it would come across as just open ended questions and clearly came across a little more accusatory or judgmental than i meant to.

anon, you're fine. i didn't mean to single you out in particular and no feathers ruffled here. i thought i was replying under me to catch everyone, but your comment was the most thorough and i really do appreciate it. apologies friend.

you made a great list of things for me to check through and make double sure on. i don't believe i'm making it difficult for people to interact with and i'm not a screaming meany. i hear you on seeing plurks that are difficult to reply to, and no one wants to see negative stuff all the time. its frustrating though when others on the plurk list only have to go waah and everyone goes running and here, not a waah in sight and its all crickets. i'm in a couple of games now but they're small and that's probably the problem, i'm just not an ooc fit. icly is a different matter, which makes it more weird when i had no problems with getting chat on plurk previously

thanks for your replies anon, and yeah, they've actually helped me double check myself here. keep up the good work.

I think I see the problem.

You have a "me vs. them" mentality and seem to think you're above others. It's oozing out of this post and I'm surprised no one has called you on it. You also have a very sour grapes attitude, calling them cliques just because they don't make time for you when you've given them little reason to.

I wouldn't want you on my plurk list, either.

nice try. no wonder op feels that way with people like you around.

milk goes on your cornflakes anon, not pee.

They literally did Sour Grapes.

"You guys are all cliques, anyway!"

Even though they admitted to not currently being in games. A lot of people use plurk for that, and then secondarily fandoms, but largely for RP things. So yeah, they're gonna lose interest, especially since the hostility and envy is going to show through when you talk to people. The only one pissing in cornflakes is OP.

you sound like you're in a clique. good for you.

op didn't say they weren't in games currently. someone else said that. the op did admit they are in games if you read all the replies. stop being a moron, and go to bed.

god all of this is me. i feel like i'm constantly adjusting to what everyone on my plurklist would find the most palatable and it's still like shouting into a void. i know internet friendships can be flaky or whatever but constantly feeling left out hurts. i took a break recently but then it was a matter of being cut off altogether which was difficult in a different way.

so you gotta choose the lesser of two evils, anon. deactivate for a while and see how you feel? and i'm sorry you're in this boat too. it's a shitty ride to be on.

i was in this boat for a while, too, and i finally decided you know what, fuck it. i'm going to respond to what genuinely interests me, ignore what doesn't, and plurk about things i love and feel passionate about.

not sure why or how, but things shifted. now i get lots of responses when i plurk and don't get ignored when i talk to people. i only kept people on my plurk who showed interest back and cut loose the rest. my list is small. no regrets. it's a small group of people i am genuinely connected with. i'm not having to mute a gazillion things or unfollow anyone.

i think the less you worry about what you're going to get out of it and the more you think about what to put into it, the better chance you have of finding real friends. sorry you're going through feeling ignored right now. i hope it gets better.

i'm trying not to worry about any of it and just do me as you said but i've always had a pretty small list for the same reasons which...makes me feel like i misjudged some friendships. but thanks, anon! <3 i'm glad things got better for you and maybe they will on my end too.

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