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because we regularly talk ooc already...? if you want to do noncon with me then just ask me right there while we're chatting or while we're setting things up or something

Do you talk in a public space like Plurk where all your friends can read it? Maybe that's why they're dancing around it (if they are dancing around it)

I don't know, anon. I can only play devil's advocate here.

we mostly talk in pms and ims sometimes

i don't know either. we'll see

don't play devil's advocate. it only leads to you looking like a jackass.

we only have one side of the story here, anon. if someone doesn't try to see things from the other point of view, what's the point of this conversation except to circlejerk?

op, if you're cool with it, it'd be cool to get a follow-up on this when you find out. i must admit i'm curious as to whether all the other anons in here are right and i'm just not seeing something that's obvious to everyone else in here

it doesn't matter how many sides to the story there are. you're assuming one thing, op clears it up, and you try to find a reason why their partner might be trying to spring rape kink on them, like they have a valid reason. they don't. don't try to make it logical. if they're talking ooc in private frequently and the partner's been on board with smut, spoken about wanting their char to jump op's, and not mentioning dubcon/noncon, then there's no reason for op to go 'oh, by the way, should i expect dubcon/noncon out of this seemingly consensual set up?'

You are jumping through ridiculous hoops to try to make it look like expecting someone else to go along with suddenly dubcon is OK. I really hope to god I never play with you. People who think that way don't need devil's advocates. They need to be hit with a clue by four.

and you're seeing the forest for the trees

i don't know how many more ways i can tell you that it's not about dubcon. it's about making your preferences known, regardless of if your kink is dubcon, the vanillaest of vanilla missionary positions, or crawling up a giantess's tits. it's no different from the people who scream and rage about how they shouldn't have to tell anyone they're not interested in playing with them but piss and moan to wankgate if they get tagged more than once by the same player

i really wish i knew at what point we all started expecting our minds to be read in this hobby and why

there's a difference between expecting mindreading and having your rp partner know you want dubcon/noncon (or h/c or ice cream on the beach or w/e), and it's another thing when both parties are having discussions in private oocly (so no, it's not stage fright) about the threads they want to have and the rp partner seeming eager to play something out and op seeming eager to go along with it and then nothing happening and it possibly being because the rp partner wants dubcon/noncon, but they aren't stating they want it when the discussions around their threads follow a consensual theme. it WOULD require mindreading on the part of the op to figure out that's what the fuck they want, and without knowing that h/c or dubcon or having ice cream licked out of their asshole is what they're going for, why the hell would they just blurt out 'by the way, i don't like/don't mind (insert thing here)'.

from what it seems like, op's going to just flat out ask them, so there you go, but in this instance, it's on the part of the person who wants the thing that isn't being discussed to open their mouth and bleat out what it is they want. op is not at fault here. whether they have a kink/preference page up or not (because lbr here, not everyone goes to read those. i sure as hell don't. but if i'm playing with someone, especially with someone i've planned something out and talk oocly to and have multiple threads with, if i wanted something or wasn't sure about something, i'd fucking ask). op's partner is giving mixed signals "My char would so jump your char. It's going to happen. All over your char." and then backing away/turning away op's char during multiple threads. they are discussing. one of them's just not being fucking honest with what they want.

How is this so fucking hard to understand?

lack of no =/= yes. lack of no has never equaled yes with ANY sort of kink. what's your damage?

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