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i feel like dubcon/noncon should be a thing you ask for, not assume.

EVERYTHING should be asked for rather than assumed

that's why both players are wrong here, op also assumed (a more socially acceptable assumption, but still an assumption)

op here and i thought it was a pretty fair assumption to make, considering i've already said we discussed it a few times and every chat made it sound like there would be mutual attraction and consensual hooking up

you're right, op. it IS a pretty fair assumption

but it's still an assumption

just message them. no one else can tell you what they want out of a scene but them.

i don't see how i'm unreasonable here, but okay, shame on me for assuming a scene would have elements in it that we specifically discussed being there

and also as i already said, we will be having a talk about our threads

i don't see why you just haven't put up a permissions post yet. as someone else said, even that master has done it

i'm not trying to shame you or anything like that, but i am still aware that i've only got one side of the story here. why you brought this to rpa instead of just asking them i can't even begin to imagine

because we regularly talk ooc already...? if you want to do noncon with me then just ask me right there while we're chatting or while we're setting things up or something

Do you talk in a public space like Plurk where all your friends can read it? Maybe that's why they're dancing around it (if they are dancing around it)

I don't know, anon. I can only play devil's advocate here.

we mostly talk in pms and ims sometimes

i don't know either. we'll see

don't play devil's advocate. it only leads to you looking like a jackass.

we only have one side of the story here, anon. if someone doesn't try to see things from the other point of view, what's the point of this conversation except to circlejerk?

op, if you're cool with it, it'd be cool to get a follow-up on this when you find out. i must admit i'm curious as to whether all the other anons in here are right and i'm just not seeing something that's obvious to everyone else in here

it doesn't matter how many sides to the story there are. you're assuming one thing, op clears it up, and you try to find a reason why their partner might be trying to spring rape kink on them, like they have a valid reason. they don't. don't try to make it logical. if they're talking ooc in private frequently and the partner's been on board with smut, spoken about wanting their char to jump op's, and not mentioning dubcon/noncon, then there's no reason for op to go 'oh, by the way, should i expect dubcon/noncon out of this seemingly consensual set up?'

You are jumping through ridiculous hoops to try to make it look like expecting someone else to go along with suddenly dubcon is OK. I really hope to god I never play with you. People who think that way don't need devil's advocates. They need to be hit with a clue by four.

and you're seeing the forest for the trees

i don't know how many more ways i can tell you that it's not about dubcon. it's about making your preferences known, regardless of if your kink is dubcon, the vanillaest of vanilla missionary positions, or crawling up a giantess's tits. it's no different from the people who scream and rage about how they shouldn't have to tell anyone they're not interested in playing with them but piss and moan to wankgate if they get tagged more than once by the same player

i really wish i knew at what point we all started expecting our minds to be read in this hobby and why

there's a difference between expecting mindreading and having your rp partner know you want dubcon/noncon (or h/c or ice cream on the beach or w/e), and it's another thing when both parties are having discussions in private oocly (so no, it's not stage fright) about the threads they want to have and the rp partner seeming eager to play something out and op seeming eager to go along with it and then nothing happening and it possibly being because the rp partner wants dubcon/noncon, but they aren't stating they want it when the discussions around their threads follow a consensual theme. it WOULD require mindreading on the part of the op to figure out that's what the fuck they want, and without knowing that h/c or dubcon or having ice cream licked out of their asshole is what they're going for, why the hell would they just blurt out 'by the way, i don't like/don't mind (insert thing here)'.

from what it seems like, op's going to just flat out ask them, so there you go, but in this instance, it's on the part of the person who wants the thing that isn't being discussed to open their mouth and bleat out what it is they want. op is not at fault here. whether they have a kink/preference page up or not (because lbr here, not everyone goes to read those. i sure as hell don't. but if i'm playing with someone, especially with someone i've planned something out and talk oocly to and have multiple threads with, if i wanted something or wasn't sure about something, i'd fucking ask). op's partner is giving mixed signals "My char would so jump your char. It's going to happen. All over your char." and then backing away/turning away op's char during multiple threads. they are discussing. one of them's just not being fucking honest with what they want.

How is this so fucking hard to understand?

lack of no =/= yes. lack of no has never equaled yes with ANY sort of kink. what's your damage?

you mean the OP assumed their partner wouldn't spring a rape scenario on them without asking first? truly they are the devil itself.

op is right above, so why not ask them if their mysterious partner sprung a rape scenario on them during any of their multiple scenes?

i think if they did we'd be hearing about it

if the other player won't let their character into a smut situation without coercion of somekind, that's springing a rape scenario.

are you the OP's partner? you are super defensive about this.

no, that's your assumption (and i'm starting to wonder if you're autistic with this kind of super-simplistic black and white thinking)

we get it. you hate dubcon and noncon. good for you. that doesn't mean you have any less of an obligation to be upfront about what you do and don't want than those icky sticky dubcon/noncon players

we get it. you hate dubcon and noncon.

now who's making assumptions?

when in rome, anon...

so you definitely just spring up rape on every rper who doesn't explicitly tell you they dislike it, regardless of thread setup or character dynamic. got it

yup, anon, you caught me red-handed. i'm the rape bandit, i prowl memes for the softest, most gen players i can and then i sneakily cadge them into playing with me

i lull them into a false sense of security, make them think it's gonna be all sweetness and coffeeshops, and then BAM I spring the chains and dildos and shove my character's butt in their character's face, demanding they shove their cock into it!

and if they don't, i spam them with goatse until they flee in terror

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