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to all of this. maybe it won't go as fast. if they're still tagging you, then there's still some interest. there are a ton of reasons people can't or don't boomerang.

for me personally, the attitude of the other player can make a huge difference. if i sense a poor me, why do you hate me now vibe behind our interactions, it makes me a lot less inclined to want interaction and at the same time feel like i'm walking on eggshells. if the problem wasn't that person before, after that sort of attitude, it sure is then. don't do this.

if the problem wasn't that person before, after that sort of attitude, it sure is then. don't do this.

then maybe tell them it isn't them instead of being avoidant???

they can't read your mind, either. some clear communication is needed on both sides of this sort of thing if neither party wants to be "walking on eggshells".

you have clearly never had this dynamic directed at you if you think a simple, it isn't you solves anything. i have always said this when this sort of situation came up. it made no difference whatsoever. they continued with the poor, pitiful me, i guess if you're busy... awkward, awkward bullshit. insecure people are fucking exhausting and their own worst enemies.

and you've clearly never been on the other side of trying to ask someone if there's an issue because something feels off and giving them an opportunity to address it and get told 'it's not you it's me' only for them to blow up at you out of nowhere 2 mos later because they're an overgrown baby who refuses to fucking communicate in a social hobby and expects everyone to read their mind. have that happen several times in the space of a couple years (which is highly likely when you have a group of titinfants who shake and cry over having to actually communicate and never say what they really want to begin with) and it's gonna be difficult to take people at their word of 'it's not you it's me.' and also feed into that insecurity. some people are better at handling the insecurity than others but it's not like it exists for no reason.

actually, i have. what i didn't do was post a whiny, poor me post to an anoncomm to cry in public about the issue. i put my big girl pants on and disengaged from the situation rather than feeling sorry for myself or throwing a temper tantrum. you should try it instead of wallowing in your obvious butthurt.

thanks for playing but i'm not the op and i do disengage. but i'm also sick of people acting like insecurity over rp exists in a vacuum and is completely independent and not informed at all by the same repeat experience because most of dwrp refuses to put on their big girl pants and communicate. if you're not feeling something anymore then nut up and say so.

people who constantly whine about rp insecurities are exhausting, sure. but when you've been burned several times taking people at their word only to find out they weren't being honest about it, it's a lot easier for things to feed into that insecurity when you recognize the pattern with someone else. you can disengage at the earliest sign, but this is also a problem that's prevalent through most of dwrp so chances are whatever partner you pick up next is gonna do the same thing. and that cycle gets pretty exhausting after a while too.

just because you've had the experience, don't assume that the people you're talking to are ones who do it. the entire reason this exchange got abrasive was over your assumptions. op came across as very whiny and poor me. it's a bad attitude to have in rp regardless of what experiences you've had.

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