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you were wonderful to rp with and i am sad we'll never have another thread. i think the ephemeral nature of the meeting is what made it so interesting. in any case, i hope you're doing well.

me, wondering if i'll ever see a reply to those threads we had but also if i'll run into the other person again on memes.

i'm pining forever, but i hope they're doing well.

Did the other writer express not wanting to play again? If not, it can't hurt to ask.

sounds like a case of said thread partner not being active on the site anymore/not on socials. i have a few of those

Oh, how sad!

I miss you so much sometimes it knocks the breath out of my lungs. I'll never write with you again and I doubt everything you ever told me, and I know I'll never go back to being close to you, but I miss what I thought we had. The freedom to share more of who I am with someone with judgement was enlightening for me and taught me a lot about who I am. Some part of me will always wonder if I could have done something different, but I'll never get an honest answer from you and I've accepted that.

Now I just wish I could cut contact without causing drama and potentially dragging people into it. Really wish you'd do it but you won't, so I feel a bit stuck in this limbo. (I know, I know, I should do it, I'm just not there yet.)

I thought you had grown as a person when you apologized for what you did to me. Lying to me about not having a plurk or discord was pretty shitty of you, though. If you just wanted to make yourself feel better and never want to talk again, at least be honest about it.

hmmm i probably would have lied to you about that, too

+1

"how dare you establish a boundary and refuse to give me access to you 24/7 after we had a fight" is not a normal response

op needs to learn to take a hint

If they had just told me "hey I'm not comfortable sharing that" I honestly would respect that. I asked if they wanted to continue talking and I was given a crappy excuse. Being lied to after an apology for something shitty THEY did makes me doubt their apology was sincere.

so don't ever talk to them again- haha wait

They probably thought you'd be weird about that, as some people are in this hobby.

Take it as them doing a favor by showing you you’re not compatible as friends.

I know it can suck esp when something feels like it could be very recoverable and you could go on to have a good relationship, but it’s best to cut your losses as early as possible tbh

not disclosing your socials to someone you're on iffy terms with isn't actually a shitty thing to do. it's literally just normal.

if they told you they didn't have them, and you discovered they did, maybe respect that they didn't want you on them, but were protecting your feelings/not causing drama.

Yes, I understand that. Telling me to my face "I would prefer not to" is something I would get. Nobody owes me their time. Unfortunately, all they did was lie to me, so I don't exactly understand why that's better or helped in any way.

If lying is normal in this instance, I don't care for it.

white lies are pretty normalized in this hobby. i'm not saying that's wrong or right or that the ultimate ethical value is indifferent to context, but i think if this is a sticking point for you (and it would be for some people), you might end up frustrated in dwrp, where the vast population is conflict-avoidant.

Alternate view here: People, after a fight, are usually VERY tender and want to go into healing/avoidant mode, it's just science for a great many people. So perhaps the thought that it would start another fight if they just said 'no'; I have been cast in that situation and while lying is not preferrable, I cannot fault anyone for going into self-preservation mode.

My suggestion is chalk it up as a loss and move on. Focusing on it is going to build resentment, especially when your time could be better spent doing other things in this hobby.

on the plus side, it does mean you can block/mute their accounts guilt free!

a white lie to keep you placated isn't a bad thing. they probably want a space without you there after the disagreement or whatever bc it's awkward. sounds like they're picking their battles.

if it's that big of a deal to you, just ask them about it in a mature way.

Deep in my heart I knew I was right. I always excited about our threads to the point where I didn’t want to tag anyone else but you. Now I see what we had is long over and can never be brought back. Thank you for the amazing threads we had, this hurts me far more than I should let it.

Please don't app to my game. It's a poor fit for your playing style and a poor fit for your character...and I fully suspect you're apping solely to play with your rp bff who's playing the other half of your ship that's actually suited to this game.

i still cannot believe that only one other person besides me was willing to challenge the overtly transphobic shit you said. maybe someone else did after i unfriended you. i don't know. i hope so.

since you haven't gotten namedropped i assume you're either less of an asshole by now or have, if nothing else, learned to keep your mouth shut. ofc the secret third option is that you're exactly the same and nobody cares.

I'm sorry. I was out of line, I wish I could take back how I behaved back then. It was wrong, and I was too in my head over something that shouldn't have mattered. I wish I was better to you, but I wasn't. I know we probably won't reconcile or meet again, so I can only hope you're doing well.

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