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if you had a falling out with someone you never intend to interact with again, would you still keep their threads on your journal or delete them? not every thread you've had together (especially because combing through bs or games is nightmare and tad too overinvested for me), but like say if you had a post dedicated to psls with them? why or why not?

i'm curious because personally i would never revisit those threads, so if the person deleted it all i wouldn't care. but i have met others who got livid about it despite being the one to end things.

I can’t really bring myself to delete them so I just private them. It’s too final and I don’t like the idea of them being lost forever even if it’s too painful to read them.

i deleted tags after one falling out, because the other player was a grossly manipulative weirdo who got jealous if I tagged anyone else. it was petty but also satisfying

otherwise I've made entries private and left it at that

It's their writing too, so no matter how much I disliked the person, I wouldn't delete a post or their comments. Maybe I'd delete my own comments, but in general, I dislike the idea of others messing with things I wrote, and I want to extend that to everyone I write with.

There was a situation where I had a falling out with someone and wanted to reuse a journal where we had an extensive psl (like 2k comments) but it was full of things I didn't want anyone else to see. So made it access list only and PMed the other person to let them know if they wanted access, I would friend a journal for a brief period. (I never did hear back, so it was fine.)

i had someone delete a psl post on their journal for falling out reasons and i'm still bothered about it years later because as sour as the ooc interaction had been, i enjoyed the rp we had. plus half of the comments on the post were mine, a heads up would've been nice.

there's always a chance you might make up.

but even if you don't, I wouldn't delete them. it feels petty.

i have before. in general i prefer to leave someone else's writing alone but if things were bad enough i delete posts as a reminder to myself to not look back

wouldn't go out of my way to do it, but realizing now I've probably done it inadvertently while repurposing or tidying old, entry-cluttered journals.

i'd imagine most deleted threads are cases like mine rather than erased out of malice.

i don't usually.

i did it once with an inbox thread because the person's behavior after the falling-out was shitty and i didn't want a reminder of them in my journal. they ended it so they weren't exactly going to want to reminisce about the cr.

i do make game inboxes private after i leave a game or it ends, to make my journals look less cluttered, but they're not deleted and if someone ever asked i'd temporarily make it public again so they could copy a thread or use it as a sample or whatever.

I deleted threads after the other person deleted theirs first due to a falling out they created. I deleted threads on journals and games when the person used the threads to badmouth my character and everything they ever did with theirs, even though they wanted nothing to do with my character they still used the story line.

I regret the pettiness of paying back the deletion. Them deleting their threads first made them look bad but me joining in the deletion spree made me look like an equally overinvested weirdo others needed to avoid.

All I learnt from any of the aftermath is leave things alone until you've touch grass a few times enough to calm down, then quiet quit, freeze out, move on. It salvages some reputation.

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