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sorry that people are sick of your majestic mcus

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Since that mess up there has me wondering:

1. Would you rp with someone even if you didn't like them?
2. Would you add someone on an rp plurk if you didn't like them?
3. Would it bother you if you an rp partner said they didn't want to be your friend?

1. yes, in games it can become unavoidable and my liking someone's writing does not correlate to my liking them as a person.
2. yes. i deliberately don't use my plurk for anything personal because people expect you to add them regardless of how close you are or would like to be on this site.
3. no, that is a totally normal thing and i would probably feel embarrassed i failed to pick up on their signals so hard that they had to flat-out tell me.

Yes
No
Maybe a little, but I'd get over it

1. No.
2. No.
3. I don't mind not being friends, but it depends on how they approach it. I wouldn't appreciate it if they assumed I wanted to be their best bud when I didn't or acted like I was this super annoying scum on the heel of their shoe. Doing it out of the blue would also be really weird.

1. yes, it's possible to keep the talk to just rp and not have to get to know the other person. i'm ok with it until one or both of us break it off or someone says "i don't want this anymore."
2. yes, i mean it happens especially when you get into a game and you realize someone you added isn't someone you want to be around. i kind of just unfollow them forget they exist.
3. sure, but i'll get over it.

1. Possibly, depending on the reasons I didn't like them. If I was neutral or we just didn't mesh personally but I liked their writing, I would. If I thought they were an asshole, I'd try to avoid them.
2. Same as above.
3. I might be a bit hurt if I really liked them, but I try to keep things in perspective and it's much, much better to know that I should not put a lot of effort into maintaining the friendship. I appreciate when my rp partners are direct, also, so I try to respond to it well even when they're not telling me what I want to hear.

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1. yes, i currently rp with people I’m neutral to or don’t care for because I keep ooc discussion very limited. like someone else said though if it was someone I thought was an outright asshole I wouldn’t.

2. same as 1

3. i would be very surprised because I keep most rp partners who weren’t already friends with me at arm’s length oocly. I’d be a little hurt if I did actually want to befriend them but I’d get over it.

1. No
2. No.
3. If they put it politely, I would be relieved and glad they were honest.

1. my "requirements" for rp are like
a) decent writer, thinks i am too, engaging and interesting ideas
b) clear ic/ooc divide, respects boundaries/permissions/kinklists etc
c) character chemistry

player personality isn't relevant, so yes absolutely

2. probably not if i already KNEW i didn't like them, i'd just keep contact to ooc boards/PMs, but if i added them and THEN found out i didn't like them... ehh, it varies. if i think we're both still mutually benefiting from the rp then i'd probably keep them around but on mute. if i repeatedly found them too clingy and didn't respect the fact that i never engage them about RL but try to dump it on me anyway (as an example), i'd probably ghost them and the rp regardless of how much i enjoyed it

3. no, i'd probably be relieved. "friendship" isn't a wide concept for me, it's quite specifically the people i talk to regularly, care about/for, engage and invest in, and trust. there's a level of commitment and trial. usually it's only for face to face interactions but i probably have an rp partner or two i'd consider a real friend. anything else is just a buddy, associate, etc

1.) Depends on how much I don't like them, but I'll thread with them at least once to see if it's worth continuing.
2.) I don't have plurk, but I might accept an add request in discord even if I don't like them. I wouldn't chat with them though.
3.) No, that's fine. I'd appreciate the honesty.

1. No.
2. No.
3. No, unless it is coming out of nowhere. Like if we've been in a game for a while and we've been rping consistently and we've been lightly chatting oocly about not-rp stuff and seem to get along. like if I'm treating this as rp acquaintance + superficial internet friend and you bust out some weird defensive I DON'T WANT TO BE FRIENDS at some seemingly unprompted moment i'm going to find it weird, yeah. i mean i will absolutely respect it but it's probably, honestly, going to be a huge mood killer rp wise too. no one wants to sit there second guessing if they're crossing an seemingly invisible personal boundary.

this is obviously a really specific example that only happened to me once and we drifted apart pretty quickly after that weird outburst. which was probably a bullet dodged, tbh.

otherwise yeah man, we can just be rp acquaintances, that's fine by my book. i don't have to be friends or even friendly with someone to have good, enjoyable rp with them. but it does make the rp better, ime, when we aren't worrying about ooc boundaries and are relaxed and trust each other.

1. No. If I don't like someone, I don't want to give them any reason to think otherwise.
2. No. I have people added that I'm not close to, but I'd never add someone I actively don't like.
3. Yes, and I'd probably stop rping with them and take it as a sign to back off all together. I see from these replies that some people have really specific definitions of what it means to call someone a friend, and that's fine for them, but for me, it'd be weird as hell for someone who talks to me about our mutual hobby all the time to not consider me a friend.

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1. Depends on why I don't like them, but probably not. I definitely wouldn't pursue deep CR with someone in a game or continue/start a PSL with someone who I found annoying or something. I want to minimize time with people I dislike.

2. I wouldn't add them actively, no. But if they put a friend request and we share a game or a cast, then yeah. Mostly because I'm a wuss though and tbh I only use my plurk to talk about games/memes/fandom so it doesn't feel like an intrusion into a personal space. I would pretty much immediately unfollow them, though. If I or them ever dropped I wouldn't have a problem unfriending them either. Would I add them to discord, though? Never, no. And as far as they'll know, I don't have a discord.

3. Yes. Like above anon, I'd definitely take that as a sign to distance myself from them too.

I mean, if they come at me right off the bat like, "Hey I'm only here to rp and not looking for friends," it wouldn't sting. I can understand wanting to keep a distance from strangers in this hobby. I RP some characters anon and don't communicate outside of PMs with some people. We tag in mutual silence except for giving a heads up if we'll be late with a reply and that works for both of us as far as I'm aware.

But if my rp partner added me on discord or their plurk and we talked about our rp/canon a lot, I'd be very hurt if they later told me that they don't want to be friends because I personally considered them a casual friend already. Especially if I felt like we got along really well and joked around and all that. So I'd take that as a sign that they don't really like my company and bow out.

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1. yes, if our characters mesh well then how i feel about them doesn't matter. i don't talk to probably 80% of the people i tag with outside of our threads so it's not like i need to be interacting with them to enjoy rping with them.
2. no. i only add people that i enjoy talking to, be it about rp or in general.
3. no, that's totally normal. i don't expect everyone to like me any more than i expect to like everyone else.

1. Yeah, in a game context, but I probably wouldn't seek them out for it unless it was needed for plot reasons or they tagged me first.

2. I wouldn't add them if I already knew that. Usually I find out I don't like them after they are already added and I see their posts.

3. Kind of depends on the situation, but yes, generally? I don't tend to talk about personal stuff with RP friends unless they start it or is been established that we have that kind of rapport, so I'd be sort of offended that they thought I was desperate to get into their friendship pants or whatever. I'd respond better to them saying "I don't like to talk about personal stuff online". If a person is constantly talking to me about RP stuff and then comes out with a "btw I don't want to be your friend" I'd be pretty irritated.

1. Depends on why I didn't like them. Mild disagreement? Fine. They cause trouble with my friends before? Depends on severity, maybe maybe not.
2. Same as 1, depends on why I didn't like them. I can be civil, but I rather avoid people who are outright rude to my friends before. Probably closer to "no" in this case, as I can ICly RP with people as long OOC contact is minimal.
3. Nope. It's a hobby after all and I only have enough time/energy to spare. I'd consider becoming friends with people an honour, really.

1. Depends on why and how much I don’t like them. If I vaguely dislike them and it’s been a while, I’ll give them a shot - people change.

If I hate them, then no. Even if I keep OOC chatter to a minimum I still have better things to do than interact with people I hate.

2. No. DW PMs exist for a reason.

3. Yes, because the only situations I can think of in which this would happen would be the person contacting me out of nowhere to randomly announce that they don’t want to be friends, and that’s pretty fucking off-putting and I’d take it as the sign that it is.

1. No.
2. No. Why would I?
3. If they want to keep minimal communication and just rp, it's fine by me. But if they dislike me and yet want me to continue be their tag dispenser I'd drop their ass

1. Would you rp with someone even if you didn't like them?
No. It's not hard to avoid them.

2. Would you add someone on an rp plurk if you didn't like them?
No. I make it a point to curate my friendlist.

3. Would it bother you if you an rp partner said they didn't want to be your friend?
No. Be up front on how we should interact and I'm good.

1. depends. if i just kind of find them annoying sometimes but i like their writing yeah, if theyre a bad person or i know theyve got a history of being an asshole then no
2. i dont really have an rp plurk, my plurk is for friends and keeping in touch with people i meet in dwrp whether we're currently playing together or not. so in my case absolutely not. id probably even be careful with a separate rp only plurk honestly, i dont really want to be in constant contact with people i dont like where i can avoid it. if i have a case like in question 1, id probably prefer to keep them at a distance and just communicate for rp and thread. if they arent cool with that then it is what it is and we dont have to thread
3. no. unless i was under the impression that we were friends for an extended period of time, it wouldnt bother me too much. it might sting a little but id move on

1. no.
2. no.
3. no.

1. Depends. I won't RP with someone that I'm not able to communicate with OOCly. If the issue I have with them is like that then I won't RP with them.

2. Hell no, but I heavily curate my plurk and don't even add all the people I RP with.

3. Also depends. Not wanting to be my friend doesn't mean we're enemies. If we can still communicate in a civil manner, then we can still RP and have fun. I don't need to be friends with everyone I RP with, but I do need to be able to communicate in a civil manner with anyone I RP with since some stuff needs OOC communication.

1. depends on why i don't like them. are they really mean and toxic? are they a bad writer? no. are they just kind of annoying? yeah, sure.
2. no.
3. if they were an asshole about it, probably. i'm not a robot. but "i don't add people unless i'm close friends" or "i prefer not to chat much ooc" are perfectly fine preferences i have no problems with.

1) yes
2) yes
3) why would anyone announce this? are they a gradeschooler? who openly tells you that they don't want to be friends?

1. It depends, if it’s just like, I find them kind of annoying or whatever I might still thread with them if we’re in a game, but if I think they’re just a shitty person then nah.

2. No

3. I assume that if someone has to tell me this directly then we were already talking quite a bit for there to be some reason to tell me, and in that case I would probably back off and leave them alone, ICly and OOCLY. I’ve had plenty of threads and CR with people I never spoke to OOCly beyond the occasional plotting comment, and it’s not like one of us approached the other to say, “We aren’t going to be friends.” We just didn’t involve ourselves with each other socially. So if someone felt the need to tell me this then something has gone very wrong and it’s probably better to just disengage.

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