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[(Anonymous)]

i feel really guilty when i buy things for myself, but the thing is that i don't have any bills going unpaid and i don't have any issues getting necessities, either. but today i spent $40 basically just treating myself to random things i just wanted, but i don't feel great about it. the kicker is that it's my birthday tomorrow, i work all day and won't have a chance to celebrate, but i still feel awful for spending money on things i don't need. :(

anyone else feel this?

[(Anonymous)]

All the damn time.

[(Anonymous)]

me for years now

my family always makes fun of me for being a tightwad but the guilt and unfounded anxiety is just ridiculous when i spend money for any indulgent thing that might cost over like twenty bucks

one too many brushes with past major financial crises have left me incapable of ever truly enjoying spending any amount of money

[(Anonymous)]

you grew up poor too, didn't you?

[(Anonymous)]

same here. when I was in college I was a little shit with money. I'd use my student grants to buy video games and tech that I didn't need. now that I'm older, slightly less stupid, and living on just above minimum wage, thinking back to how frivolous I used to be makes me feel disgusting.

I had a minor health crisis last year that resulted in multiple three-figure bills that ranged everywhere from between 100 to 800. my finances took a significant blow and ever since then spending money on trivial shit I don't need is uncomfortable business, even when I can technically afford to treat myself. I'm definitely better about saving at least, because dealing with that made me realize you never know when trouble's going to sock you one out of the blue.

[(Anonymous)]

all the time. i even feel guilty about buying things i NEED, not want, which makes no sense because i have no problem affording the things i need. i have plenty of extra spending money but i never want to spend it. i just hold on to it forever, which is stupid because it's not like i can take it with me when i die. why bother making it if i don't enjoy it?

idk why i do it. i never grew up poor or anything.

[(Anonymous)]

yeah, me too, anon. my family was always upper-middle class but when I had to support myself alone through college, it turned me into a tightwad afraid to spend anything. I can't even get fast food without telling myself "for the $8 you just spent on one meal you could have gotten enough groceries for 3 meals."

but it's your birthday, anon, you're allowed a little something. I hope you have a happy one even if you had to work.

[(Anonymous)]

Every time I spend more than $20 on something I don't actually need, I feel like shit.

[(Anonymous)]

This usually kicks in right after I say it would be cool to purchase x, y or z. It drives my partner nuts because then I take back wanting to purchase it and they feel let down.

[(Anonymous)]

all the damn time.

but i won't think twice about spending on other people and treating them to dinner or a book they wanted or whatever. :\

[(Anonymous)]

same here. for me it relates to a lot of my ~brain problem~ stuff of not deserving nice things, but also because there was a time not too long ago where i was drowning in medical debt and could barely afford anything outside of absolute necessities.