rpanons | Thankee sai

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you'd get your ass handed to you.

I wish.

I've seen it. It's not always outright hatred, often it's F/F getting flak for what players in m/m ships or m/f ships are doing in the same game without anyone complaining.

For example, a game I was in had a polyamorous lesbian ship not involving me (I don't play poly, not because I hate it, but because it's not my thing). One girl had two different girlfriends, and was open about it. Meanwhile, a male character kept a harem, and was described as such by his player.

The F/F one was the only one that got people complaining, including self-professed straight girls claiming they were "protecting lesbians of stereotypes" by wanting the polyamorous ship F/F ship to go.

Another game had two underage ships not involving me. One M/F, one F/F. The only ship that got complaints, despite being not sexual in any way, was the F/F ship, even though it's pretty supported by canon. You had people state that they only thought the F/F ship was problematic, because it was F/F, and that the M/F ship was fine.

It's not everywhere. There are a lot of games without this. But there are also a lot of games where people are uncomfortable with lesbians existing in general, and give M/F (and sometimes M/M) a pass for things they'd bash in F/F couplings.

Just last year I had a game where a player was asked to stop mentioning that she had a girlfriend, because it made people uncomfortable. She had mentioned it two times, when other people talked about their SO.

I really thought this was the norm, because it has been the case for most games I was in.

if you outright stated that you thought a f/f pairing wasn't legitimate on the basis of it being between two women

This has been outright stated to me two times, actually. :/
It's why I went to QoH. Come to think of it, isn't this issue one of the reasons QoH was made in the first place? So there are a number of people that experienced it.

And if I remember right, didn't QoH also draw a lot of homophobic hate on rp secrets before the game even got advertized?

I'm not saying that F/F is hated everywhere, but some of us were unlucky enough to have been to the parts of LJ where it apparently is.

That sounds like regular old homophobia. :/ People thinking the m/f was fine and not caring about the guy having a harem, I mean. Anyway, I just wish people would stop trying to turn it into a who's oppressed more context. People complain about m/m shippers and that they only want buttsex (and surprise, they manage to sound pretty misogynistic when criticizing the women who play such ships, even when they're queer). People think f/f players are neckbeards and only want to play the ship to be creepy. All of that should just stop imo, and people need to stop assuming that just because someone is interested in playing a same sex ship it's automatically OOC and thus deserves more scrutiny.

Thankee sai

Obviously not SA, but similar experiences. SE?

Re: Obviously not SA, but similar experiences. SE?