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THE LOVE HOTEL

[(Anonymous)]

AKA the second most popular RP-related comm on dreamwidth. Stay mad, haters.

FAVORITES

[(Anonymous)]

um

[(Anonymous)]

I'm a little weirded out by this person who's posting the exact same tag to several different guy characters on the wedding bliss post. Literally the exact same tag, only names changed. Do people do this?

Re: um

[(Anonymous)]

I've seen it done before, but by someone who apologized for it in the subject line. Which I thought was weirder, because they obviously thought it was something to say sorry over, but still did it.

Re: um

[(Anonymous)]

Welcome to the world of that drault, aka the only person who will give that marceline the time of day. needless to say, they're shit too.

Re: um

[(Anonymous)]

where?

Re: um

[(Anonymous)]

Is it that strange to use the same response?

Re: THE LOVE HOTEL

[(Anonymous)]

sure is neckbeards in here

Re: THE LOVE HOTEL

[(Anonymous)]

this is surprising?

though I don't really see many more so then usual?

Re: THE LOVE HOTEL

[(Anonymous)]

what are you talking about?

Re: THE LOVE HOTEL

[(Anonymous)]

So my TLH lovelies, when someone you find unpleasant tags you, do you...

A. Give them a couple pity tags and then drop
B. Thread out as much as you can despite the pain
C. Ignore them
D. 'Accidentally' delete their post
E. Other

[(Anonymous)]

C. Ignore the fuck out of them and hope they eventually get the idea not to tag you.

Re: THE LOVE HOTEL

[(Anonymous)]

C. They usually leave you alone unless they're like insane stalkers.

Re: THE LOVE HOTEL

[(Anonymous)]

I usually go with A the first time they tag me. If they tag me again afterward, I go with C.

Re: THE LOVE HOTEL

[(Anonymous)]

Just curious, since I've seen several dominant character-muns complaining about dime-a-dozen weepy uke subs.

I play my character as a switch, but I haven't had much chance to write him as a sub and I'd like him to be engaging. What do you think makes a good sub? What do you wish subs would do more often? What should they avoid?

Re: THE LOVE HOTEL

[(Anonymous)]

just don't make them a weepy kawaii sub?

Seriously, I play a lot of dom characters but I don't really play them as much here anymore because there's so many teary eyed ones. Play a sub who is an active participant in sex and will do more then just lay there taking it. If your character is a guy try not to make them girly. Sub guys are men too, they deserve a little bit of manly!

Re: THE LOVE HOTEL

[(Anonymous)]

The above is good advice. Participation is key. "Submissive" ≠ "lies there like a blow-up doll", which is a problem a lot of people seem to have -- they expect the dominant character to do all the work, and that's not at all fun.

Have your character give something back. The dominant character sets the tone, sure, but they are looking for something in return. "Getting to bone uke" is not a reward in and of itself. Have your character react, struggle, seduce, do things out of their own initiative, maybe trip my character up a little (how and if you do that depends on what kind of scene and character you're playing, obviously.) Be surprising and engaging. "She moaned at the xxx in her xxx because it felt so good" is not interesting. For example, if the dominant character is giving orders and expecting them to be followed -- don't just have your character go through the motions. You may want to describe what they're feeling as they follow (or don't follow!) -- are they disgusted/depressed/turned on despite themselves/eager to please? If they're completely submissive, do they try to actively think about pleasing the other character beyond what the order suggested? If so, how?

Tl;dr submissive is not the same as passive, and the latter is something to avoid.

Re: THE LOVE HOTEL

[(Anonymous)]

I also play a dominant character, but I'm very lucky that I have an awesome sub to play with. Here's my 2 cents on what makes it work well:

RPers forget a truism of BDSM play IRL: the extent to which the sub actually controls the scene. This isn't just because the sub has the ability to "safe out." It's because the sub is the one whose physical and psychological limits are being stretched and tested by what is happening in the scene. (IRL, safe doms are, by definition, not just experimenting with things they've never done before on some willing piece of meat. They have studied the techniques they're using under the supervision of someone more experienced. So what they're doing might be something new with that particular sub, but it's very rarely going to be totally uncharted territory for them, like it might be for the sub.)

There are some subs who are eager and some who are resistant, but whatever kind you're playing, submission should have something to do with limits being tested and explored. That's your space of creativity and experimentation for what you do with your character. Make use of it because that's what a BDSM scene is really going to be about!

There's nothing interesting about dominating a character who doesn't have to struggle with something (the pain, the humiliation, their embarrassment, their desires, their self-control, letting go, moving, not moving, whatever). It doesn't have to be a physical struggle. It can be totally internal, but it needs to be there to make things interesting.

Basically, if the submissive character doesn't go through something that they wouldn't have experienced otherwise, there's no reason for the dominant character to be there at all. They might as well be an automaton if the only things they're doing to the sub are things that the sub would do to themselves/things that make no difference.

(Also, to be clear, I'm not saying that dominant characters never have their own struggles with being dominant. It's just that in general, the BDSM scene is not the time/place for those. There's a reason why "top drop" is something that tends to come after the scene is done.)

OP

[(Anonymous)]

Awesome! Thanks, guys, I had a lot of this worked out already, but you've given me plenty to think about. :)

Re: THE LOVE HOTEL

[(Anonymous)]

LAUGH MY FUCKING ASS OFF.

Oh god, one of the new mods is a drama llama who can't RP worth a shit. Good fucking luck with her, guys.

Re: THE LOVE HOTEL

[(Anonymous)]

deets please

Re: THE LOVE HOTEL

[(Anonymous)]

Agreed. I know who you're talking about.

Re: THE LOVE HOTEL

[(Anonymous)]

Her application spent a month on a public mod recruitment post. What stopped you from contacting the current team and saying as much before she was hired?

Re: THE LOVE HOTEL

[(Anonymous)]

Oh god, one of the new mods is a drama llama who can't RP worth a shit.

She'll fit right in then.

bah

[(Anonymous)]

I judge people who make locked posts to the main comm. I mean, really? Why? Fucking musebox that shit, put it in your own journal, or lock it if you're playing a journal based game.

I cannot think of a single reason to post it to the hotel comm proper except as a form of narcissistic exhibitionism.

Maybe I'm totally off base here, but why the hell would you even?