rpanons | Makin' my blorbos smooch is what gets me through the hard times

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YOU understand it. YOU'RE okay with being told the truth. i can imagine there's more than a handful of people on here who've had a seriously negative experience with being honest about their time management/tag preference, and that's WHY they lie. lying doesn't come naturally to most people, but to save feelings and maybe themselves from someone reacting in a shit manner, 'not feeling rp today' is such a small thing instead of 'not feeling our thread rn and just want to focus on something else', which can lead to days of bullshit.

sure, but hopefully you can also understand why it'd be a little off-putting to realize you weren't afforded the presumption that you can handle someone setting a normal boundary and were instead managed in this way. it also inevitably creates a precedent and forces me to wonder about other things, like whether (general) you're really enthusiastic about the thread or kink scenario i proposed, or whether maybe you gave me more white lies because you're too polite to tell me otherwise or afraid i'll blow up during a normal interaction.

it creates a layer of second-guessing that i just don't have to do if i can count on my rp partner to be honest in their communication. i do enough reading between the lines at work, so i'd like to reduce that kind of emotional labor in my hobies. that means people like me wouldn't be a good fit for those who prefer to navigate their interaction by way of white lies - and that's fine ig, as there are ultimately enough fish in the sea for all of us.

NA and it’s the former examples that get me with this kind of thing. I’m not gonna blow up at anyone who white lies and whether or not someone is feeling tags on a particular day is harmless enough to fib about; the other examples are a lot more serious. I would like to be able to talk to my rp partners and trust what they’re saying when we’re planning out a smut scene or a serious plot, and if I end up feeling like I need to second guess everything my partner says that’s just exhausting.

I think also the problem is sometimes there's no need to even tell a white lie about it. Just leave it be, tag what you want, if someone comes to you, and they're a close friend then just be honest.

But in reality, not everyone in rp has only good, close friends. ppl are in games, have big groups, and don't always wanna engage deeply. So I guess I get both sides here.

AYRT

Good point regarding games, being thrown in with a bunch of random strangers, etc.

At this point I think a lot of rpers getting frustrated with these behavior patterns would be doing themselves a favor to just gently distance from the CR that is frustrating them. There's no arguing another rper into tagging faster or paying you (general) more attention in a way that isn't incredibly toxic, so it's better to just go find something else to do. If the player who's not feeling threads or telling white lies or whatever really wants that cr, they are fully capable of reaching out for it too.

Agreed anon. In the end, the people who love your tags and your writing will make it clear to you.

although be prepared for those people to not exist

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i feel kinda bad for you anon

bruh

I’m sympathetic to this mood because I’ve struggled with really wanting cr with another person to work out when they’re just not that into me TM, but again: you cannot argue or nag someone into caring about cr with you as much as you care about cr with them. You gotta have some means of coping with the situation that doesn’t make it the other person’s problem.

with that kind of approach... it probably won't happen for you, so yes, absolutely. hobbies should be fun and joyful, if you go in with that vibe, you'll get it back.

idk man, i've def encounter the toxic version of the other side, where someone becomes so accustomed to telling "harmless" white lies that they become an issue in and of itself.

specifically, someone who would constantly lie and say they "lost the tag" when they really just wanted to drop the thread. so of course, in saying that, people would just link them the thread so they could tag it. and when this player "lost the tag" again, it would make the other players feel frustrated, and try to offer solutions to a problem that doesn't actually exist, leading the lying-player to get defensive for being indirectly called out on their lies.

this same lying-player then went on to accuse multiple people of being pushy for linking them their tags, since they obviously couldn't read the liar's mind. and it eventually led to a bunch of people opting out of threading with this player because it just made them look flaky.

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