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Re: RP WOES

[(Anonymous)]

i think it's understandable a lot of people have the same woe when most of them boil down to "people will not communicate with me" or "i cannot possibly communicate with people".

what i don't get is the people coming in to the first kind claiming the second thing and people don't owe anyone standard level communication.

the actual answer is of course that yall are the people refusing to communicate and trying to somehow normalize that

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[(Anonymous)]

you absolutely can ghost people and there will be no consequences for you, but that doesn’t mean it’s not a crappy thing to do and people won’t have feelings about it

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[(Anonymous)]

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[(Anonymous)]

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[(Anonymous)]

Every time anyone says you can't expect people to communicate I know they're the ones we're talking about.

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[(Anonymous)]

this is how transactional relationships work. this is how rp is until you get close. that's how real people do things, and how adults do things. outside of the internet though... which might be a shocker.

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[(Anonymous)]

Not everything is only either a transactional or a deep relationship. Sometimes people communicate like adults. Just apparently not around here.

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[(Anonymous)]

some people know how to manage their time, and others don't. it's not deep, it's just practical, and to compartmentalize does take maturity.

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[(Anonymous)]

you seem confused. making plans with someone and ghosting them isn't how normal adults do things. it's how immature people do them. hth

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[(Anonymous)]

you're right when it comes to friends. but you are not friends with everyone on the internet. Sometimes you put out a line to meet a new person and they don't jive with you and the connection ends there. that is a very normal part of being an adult.

we aren't all friends who are entitled to each other's time just because we go to the same "club" here on dwrp.

da

[(Anonymous)]

no, it's not normal at all. the normal thing is send a message to say you're canceling. there's a reason why the term ghosting has been invented and why it has a negative connotation.

who is saying anything about "each other's time"? people here don't want anyone to force themselves to play/hang out with them. they only want a two seconds message saying "this isn't working, but thanks anyway".

Re: da

[(Anonymous)]

no one owes anyone that, esp in a thing that is a casual hobby at best. ghosting is a dating term, maybe take your emotions out of rp?

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[(Anonymous)]

i was going to agree with the sentiment that you don't always have to tell someone you're not interested, but reading the reasoning has me baffled.

making plans with someone and bailing without warning, close or not, is just plain rude especially when you have to make them go out of their way. writing a tag may not be the same as driving to a coffee shop to meet, but i'd feel extremely bad if i just ghosted someone who went out of their way to meet me only for me not to at least go "oh sorry, i can't make it".

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[(Anonymous)]

i think you're overinvested in what online interactions should be unless you have an established relationship. we're all working, we're all managing our own lives and businesses. this is just a hobby.

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[(Anonymous)]

wanting communication is not "being overinvested". it's basic manners

[(Anonymous)]

Not really, unless they're your friend. If it means that much, rather just initiate communication and confront them? That's an easy way to solve things.

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[(Anonymous)]

confused about the people saying "it's just a hobby" like that excuses any an all rudeness and absolves them of any responsibility to be a decent human being

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[(Anonymous)]

you're right when it comes to friends. but you are not friends with everyone on the internet. Sometimes you put out a line to meet a new person and they don't jive with you and the connection ends there. that is a very normal part of being an adult.

we aren't all friends who are entitled to each other's time just because we go to the same "club" here on dwrp.

sa

[(Anonymous)]

damn browser, wth??? ignore this

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[(Anonymous)]

you do not have to be friends to deserve a short note that something won't work out, hope this helps.

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[(Anonymous)]

surprised and confused this is even an argument, only little kids make plans and flake without a word and think they're in the right.

like you don't HAVE to tell someone you're not doing an activity you planned together, but not doing so DOES mean you're in the wrong. it's just basic social math.

ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

the funny thing is, initially i was going to comment saying that i've recently come back to rp after almost a decade away, in the real world, doing about nothing but working, and that the ingrained, extremely normal thing for me now -- outside of the internet -- is to shoot a quick message to say "thanks but no thanks," or what have you. quick communication to make sure someone isn't kept waiting for nothing. that's actually normal in a situation like this, not ghosting.

Re: RP WOES

[(Anonymous)]

has making these posts month after month changed anything about dwrp for you

i regret to inform you that it is normal here

Re: RP WOES

[(Anonymous)]

i only post once in a blue moon when smth happens. i don't run into shit like this monthly, possibly because i only play with other adults who know how to use their words.

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[(Anonymous)]

the real skill issue tbh