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anon i think you hit the nail on the head. people are afraid of confronting the fact that their mediocre work doesn't attract people to continue with them. we all have many things going at once, there's very little time and space for bkst randoms who want a full testimony about why their bakugo is mid.

i think people who immediately jump to "you all must be mediocre writers" are the most shit writers in hobby, honestly. it's a lot of projection.

if people are ghosting you, there's some kind of disconnect. not necessarily talent-based. just move on if you're in demand? i don't get it anon...

I think the main issue here is less the act of ghosting itself and more that people seem to disagree on whether or not manners should or should not include sending a message when you drop a planned activity.

this might be cultural too actually. sometimes saying less and letting people bow out with dignity is just kinder. we all know how to take the hint... personally i'd way prefer just polite silence.

Personally I'd prefer a short pm so I can remove it from my to do list. I schedule my RP time because I have to balance it with my job and other hobbies, so it's pretty fucking annoying when people know they want to drop something - often before I've done the next step in something - and refuse to communicate that with me so I then waste my time on the next step before figuring out they've decided not to do it.

same, actually! i would rather the polite silence. is it not working for you? just let it go.

i don't need or want an explanation or notice.

it's never my only thread or even my only meme/psl thread.

there's absolutely a perspective clash happening. some people like having a bunch of threads going at once. others prefer to keep it to a handful or have niche interests. people in the one group probably won't consider dropped threads a waste of time because they can move on to something else. people in the other group might have stopped searching for new threads so they feel like their time was wasted.

i don't know if there's a happy medium because you either communicate or you don't. it's just annoying to have one side saying you're a socially stunted jerk if you don't communicate and another side saying you're immature/overinvested/entitled if you want better communication.

ayrt here

i agree with you on both points. i have read most of this thread and a lot of this is boiling down to different versions of perceived politeness imo. and i also agree that it's stupid to assign this degree of malice to either side of this conversation.

my preference is silence and i consider it be polite! i do not feel stood up, ghosted, or even annoyed. but that is my personal preference. i have been asked by rpmates before to tell them if i move on from a thread or lose the inspiration and it's no skin off my nose to do this for them if/when that happens.

a little conversation can go a long way.

i think part of the clash comes down to sides both assigning that malice to their own sentiment AND to the opposite "side". anons were just trying to say "this is how I deal with the disappointment of being ghosted" at first, and that sentiment was conflated with a sentiment expressed by a completely separate anon of "being annoyed by the ghosting makes you overinvested"

from there it turned into potshots because how dare people have contrasting opinions

I think overall the anon I agree with the least is the one claiming anyone annoyed by it is overinvested. While not everyone will feel annoyed at being dropped, many people will. It's a common complaint all the time on here and I see it on plurk and Discord as well. If that anon just accepted that other people having emotions and reactions they don't doesn't mean they're overinvested I don't think this argument would have happened.

yeah, but they were still different people, was my point. responders kept treating it as though the person saying anyone annoyed by it is overinvested was the same anon as the multiple anons giving the "here's how i get through that feeling" advice. And yeah, if you THINK the advice-anons are saying "being annoyed is stupid, don't be annoyed", that's dumb advice. but that wasn't the case. Those were two different sentiments expressed by different anons.

There was at least one person genuinely saying don't be annoyed, that's stupid and if you're annoyed you're overinvested. Like maybe it started out as two separate anons but there are people genuinely arguing specifically that side now, so it's disingenuous to say it's not happening at this point?

especially if this isn't a person i've had any ooc contact with. if we're just threading on a meme or whatever, i honestly don't care if you drop the thread for any reason you want. sure, i'll be a little sad if i was enjoying it, but it's not like it's my only thread and honestly i would rather someone just bow out politely if they're not feeling it.

this is why i don't pm people to say i'm dropping a thread unless i know them, tbh. if they're a stranger i've never threaded with before and i just really hate the way they write, i'm not going to a) tell them their writing's straight up not good because nobody wants or needs to hear that, or b) lie and tell them it's not them it's me and we just don't mesh. if i drop a thread it's because the writing's intolerable, and i'm still sure they'll find other threads without mine.

i way prefer this. i've had people PM me when they're dropping a thread (and we don't know each other) but it's always been a courtesy because RL is getting in the way, and they'd like to pick it back up when things calm down. I think this is the only reason to send a DM... if it's because we have no writing chemistry? i'd rather not know lol just ghost me please

but see that's the problem

is it really a hint?

because see, we drop threads all the time. but that doesn't mean you don't want to thread with that person ever again. the thread may be old, it got boring, you need to make your inbox smaller, it evolved into chitchat, etc. especially in memes - if i have to "take a hint" from every person on bakerstreet who dropped a thread, i wouldn't have anyone left to tag (not judging them for dropping threads btw just explaining).

i know it hurts to hear our styles don't mash or whatever, but i'd rather know so i can avoid tagging that person again.

Aren't these different situations from the one being discussed though? An old thread means you still got a good amount of tagging in, but some people are saying it is upsetting to be dropped at the very start without warning.

The way people would take it would also be very different.

i think it still applies. maybe they lost the voice for that character, or lost the notif/link. if you arrive late at tfln you may be dropped after captcha hits.

that said i don't think "old thread" always equals a good amount of tagging in dwrp's current speed.

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