next time i'm sticking to my antisocial ways

[socksuke_uchiha]

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Re: LETTERS YOU'LL NEVER SEND

[(Anonymous)]

tell them this.

i say this as someone who has told two flakes i didn't want to rp with them anymore because of how bad they were at dropping and flaking on shit: it feels good to put it out there, you never have to deal with their false promises again, and in some cases, it's a wake-up call to the person flaking.

[(Anonymous)]

ayrt I would consider it if they weren't already severely depressed. as someone who also struggles with MH I don't want to be a cause for worsening theirs.

[(Anonymous)]

nayrt, i personally think it's fine to say it. most of us deal with our own mh, afaik, and in a community where prefs and permissions are emphasized every day of the year, we should be able to handle and respect if somebody doesn't want to interact with us or has limited time and patience they are trying to make the most of with one of their hobbies. if you're really worried, convey it in the nicest way possible. "i don't think we're compatible bc of time/schedule differences." or like ayrt said, the more direct and honest, the more it allows them to reflect and be better, if not at least more considerate going forward. as in, ia with ayrt and think ripping off the bandaid is better for everyone, but if you don't feel comfortable with it, there's your out. and tbh, even when being direct, that doesn't mean you have to be a dick or anything, just be you and be honest. you can't really go wrong with that, imho.

also, your mh is just as important, esp since you're a person, not a fun or copium dispenser that exists for their personal enjoyment, and i don't doubt they know that. besides, there is a huge difference between intentionally being a pos that wants to hurt someone else's feelings and kindly informing someone of your own personal limits. and similarly, sure, maybe they weren't trying to intentionally be shitty to you by flaking, but they have hurt your feelings and it's okay to tell them that. how they choose to respond is entirely on them, not you.

[(Anonymous)]

you are never responsible for another person's mental health unless you're actively abusing and mistreating them.

"telling them something they don't want to hear" is not abusing and mistreating them. the idea that you have to silently endure things just to spare somebody's feelings because they have mh problems is not healthy or helpful