oh to be a beautiful widow taking a rest against my fainting couch

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[(Anonymous)]

lol@everyone in here like people don't get their knickers in a knot over this all the time here and wg

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[(Anonymous)]

other people might, but i dont?

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[(Anonymous)]

try posting something like this on wankgate right now

see what happens, i'll wait 🍿

(frozen comment) OP

[(Anonymous)]

guys, i just want to know the etiquette, because i might find myself in this position (for reasons i think are valid, but i recognize the optics can be debatable). sorry if i've upset anyone, i didn't expect this to get heated

(frozen comment) nayrt

[(Anonymous)]

Optics are probably going to look bad to at least one person but do whatever you feel you need to do.

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[(Anonymous)]

the best thing you can do in this hobby in general, not just related to this, is to stop caring what you assume other people are going to think. you can't control someone else's reaction, just do whatever you need to do.

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[(Anonymous)]

uh, imo, it depends on how you go about it.

i've dealt with some people who sobbed about how they're so burnt out to even think about tagging, and they have to hiatus because their energy is gone, and then they've got a tag plurk going at the same time gushing about their 200+ tags at this new game.

i try not to stalk people, but sometimes people make it very obvious, like i once had a comod who talked about how school made her so burnt out that she can't even think about rping and she also doesn't want to step down as a mod but she's just so tired, sorry...............and also she's apping a new character to this fast paced game and is SO hype. same convo, back to back statements.

THAT shit i side-eye.

but if you're just saying you're burnt out, but think maybe trying something new on your downtime might help when you're ready to return, i wouldn't think twice about it. tdms don't have time constraints, sometimes something new helps, in the worst case you're dropping game a for game b but w/e, that's not a big deal.

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[(Anonymous)]

thanks for the input. i enjoy my first game greatly and the irl stress is a yearly constant this month because of the financial year. i'm not 'faking' the need for my hiatus. but the other game does apps very, very, very infrequently, so it's either push through and tdm/app now, or only join it many months from now (sorry for being vague, trying not to id myself).

i think that's a "legitimate" reason, especially knowing i have the bandwidth for both games in may, but i am not insensitive that things might look different from the outside.

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[(Anonymous)]

please for the love of god think about your own mental health first and foremost, not what a bunch of assholes on rpa think

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[(Anonymous)]

if you're saying i'm not rping at all, that will be bad optics because you're rping elsewhere openly, if you're like i need a break from this character, but i'm going to hit some other things, that should be fine.

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[(Anonymous)]

caring so much about "optics" is 90% of why this community has such a problem with anxiety

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[(Anonymous)]

yeah, i'd think so too. it's audit season, there's reasons to be stressed rn, but if apps open once every so often i can see why you'd want to hurry and do it now.

but ultimately it just comes down to what everyone's more or less been saying: as long as you don't go "oh i am so tired my energy is gone i must prioritize my mental health, do not speak to me about rp, do not speak to me about tags, the thought of rp exhausts me i need a mental health break and cannot tag rn" and THEN go "also check out this 300 comment tdm post i got going with 5 people, i've been boomeranging right this second" no one is going to care.

at least no one reasonable is going to care. if i was your one close castmate and you just told me what you wrote here, i'd probably want to snoop your threads and cheer you on. i'd be fine with this.

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[(Anonymous)]

you're fine. don't worry about what neurotic anons on these comms think, this place is a tiny % of dwrp and nobody really cares that much if you need to take time off from a game and app into another one. and if they do care they'll probably forget about it within a month or two

please look after yourself first. if you spend all of your time trying to please this crowd you'll drive yourself mad. caring so much about what things look like from the outside is a great way to make yourself feel worse for no actual benefit.

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[(Anonymous)]

say as much and you're fine

"i'm too stressed and busy for this game" and then apping into another is where the problem comes from. "i'm too stressed and busy to balance two games this month so i'm going to focus on getting established in game #2 while the opportunity is there, and i'll be back in full swing in may" is fine

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[(Anonymous)]

honestly op idk why you couldn't have told your gamemates exactly what you just told anons a few comments above

nobody would judge an explanation like that. doing it like you described in your original post, tho, would definitely make me wonder if you're losing interest in game 1 altogether at the very least

if it's a matter of wanting to get properly set up on a time limit in a second game between a briefly busy irl schedule nobody's gonna bat an eye. but they sure wouldn't guess that just by the info you initially dropped

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[(Anonymous)]

why do dwrpers think they are owned an explanation of someone's personal circumstances that they deem "legitimate" enough to excuse them from their tags, specifically

do you tags Deborah

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[(Anonymous)]

genuinely surprised at all the people acting like this wouldn't get their side eyes

if you're stressed enough with rl to hiatus from rp, you don't immediately go and app into another game. just be honest and say you aren't feeling game #1 instead of trying to legitimize with obvious fake excuses

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[(Anonymous)]

i have literally zero drive to side-eye people over what they do with their hobby time.

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[(Anonymous)]

lmfao did all the bitter betties just get off their shifts at work or something

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[(Anonymous)]

you think they have jobs?

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[(Anonymous)]

you're right

i can't imagine having the free time to sit around and parse out who's lYiNg about their time and energy in my hobby and then hold some weird grudge about it

instead of just waiting until they're ready to rp with me again

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[(Anonymous)]

"parse out"

plurk one: no rp this month! sorry guys

plurk two: here is john at tfln

(frozen comment) da

[(Anonymous)]

plurk one: tired, unhappy, makes a spur of the moment decision

plurk two: wants to have some fun for a couple of hours

jfc the way you people are acting it's like they've committed a war crime not decided to write a few rp scenes

if anything we should be glad when people actually want to rp instead of telling them they're lYinG or NoT ALloWeD because they said they wanted a break. doesn't this place love to go off about how the hobby is dying because nobody wants to rp? now anons are telling someone they shouldn't be rping lmao it's nuts

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[(Anonymous)]

nobodys saying its a war crime

its just not a great look

if you consider it that big of a deal that says more about you than anyone else

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[(Anonymous)]

it's not Tha Ultimate Betrayal Of All TIME. but it is hard to understand in a way that would make many people feel they were the problem.

can come off like "i want to RP, just not with YOU."

would just be more polite to understand youre in a community where the majority of people would not take the extremely optimistic and supportive position of "my gamemate needs a break from our threads and it doesn't say anything about me at all and i can happily wait because i didn't want tags anyway!!" by default. neither would most humans on earth. why not say you need a break from your character/current threads but it's nothing personal.