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met someone who plays the other half of my ship on a meme. great! we had an enjoyable thread that moved quickly, and shortly thereafter, we moved onto psls.

it's been... up and down since then? there'll be patches of time where they might not get to me for a couple days while they boomerang with me on others. totally fine. they're a bit difficult to communicate with oocly, but just when i think they don't want to talk to me, they surprise me with spontaneous chatter.

i nudged them for a second thread when our first began to stagnate, and it had been moving along quickly... until recently. it's been a few days without tags and i see them dropping their muses on memes, (not strictly indicative of interest, i know) and i'm beginning to wonder if they don't like tagging me as much as they used to.

i'd like to avoid being a pest that begs for tags, but i really enjoy playing with them + our threads and don't want to just let things go! they were the one who reached out to me initially because they enjoyed our thread and wanted to do more, but just... it's so hard to read them. i'm not sure what to do.

so... they're a normal rper who rps in a normal way?

This all sounds pretty normal. Playing outside of a game setting means that rp is generally going to be sort of inconsistent, and not all of us are great at ooc stuff. I know I can come off hot and cold when I dont mean to. If the breaks between their apparent interest start to drag out into weeks and they stop approaching you, that's different and might indicate they aren't into it.

But topleveling in memes and taking a few days between tags aren't really signs of disinterest. They might just be fishing for more rp partners to do other stuff with.

stop trying to read them. stop paying attention to their other threads. don't think about how long it's been since they tagged you. find other ways to occupy yourself. you're overinvested. it's only been a few days.

"stop paying attention to their other threads"

I don't know about OP, or you, but if I browse memes, I don't need to specifically pay attention to notice if someone is threading there a lot. I don't notice every single player but of course I'm going to recognize the username of someone I'm threading with.

That is all that really is needed. It's not about stalking someone.

And no, it's also not about being entitled to their tags. It's simply just noticing if a thread partner is tagging others and putting up new toplevels every day while getting to your thread only once a week.

"find other ways to occupy yourself"

What makes you think they don't? That's such a stupid thing to say (and said here too often). Some people set aside a time each day to rp. I do that. I go to work or I study or both. I have other hobbies. When I come online to check my inbox, of course I'm going to want to see tags there. If there isn't, yes I do other things but I'd rather have those tags because it's my "rp time" then.

To say "find other ways to occupy yourself" is just your attempt to shame others by claiming they don't have life outside rp.

you do realize that it's possible to notice someone tagging without assuming that it means they're not interested in you anymore, right? and there's a difference between being sad about having an empty inbox and fretting over one specific person who hasn't tagged back in "a few days."

op asked what they should do and the best thing they can do is to step away and focus on things that are making them happy. sorry if that bothers you.

i have a thread that i genuinely love, i just can't tag it every day because it's emotionally heavy and sometimes i'm not in the right mood to write that kind of thing. not tagging it for a few days doesn't mean that i'm not interested in the thread. it doesn't mean that i don't like my rp partner. all it means is that sometimes i'm not feeling that particular thread that day.

anyone who thinks that someone not tagging their specific thread back for a day or two is somehow a personal slight against them needs to take a serious step back and chill.

i agree with a lot of this.

but i also think that if someone is consistently putting you at the bottom of their tag priority for whatever reason, while being quick to tag back everybody else, it's understandable if you start taking it personally.

there's someone i know who "loves our thread and writing with me" and yet it consistently takes them 2+ weeks to tag me back, while tagging back everyone else faster. our thread always seems to be last and after months of being on the backburner, i'm ready to drop to it. you can only be told how much people love playing with you while they emphatically don't actually play with you before you stop believing it and move on.

sure, but there's a pretty big difference between consistently taking over two weeks to tag back and taking just a few days in between tags like op said. for a lot of people, tagging a thread every few days is a perfectly normal tagging speed, especially given the current state of the world. op said they'd been tagging quickly before and have slowed down a bit, which means it's most likely just a simple matter of outside influences.

it doesn't sound like they're ignoring op at all, just that they're not tagging as fast as op would like. that's why i'm saying op needs to step back and chill.

no offense anon, but you sound like you've never had to deal with someone who passive aggressively harasses you for tags.

i had to deal with a player in the past who was eventually banned from multiple games and run out of the dwrp due to how possessive they became over their cr and ship partners. it was a fucking nightmare until i just gave up trying to reason with them and blocked them.

the way op sounds is almost identical to how that person did at first, and i initially took your approach. but after that experience, i've gotten better at reading between the lines, and can tell you that if they're already at the point where they're writing a huge diatribe on rpanons complaining about, they're doing twice as much of that to their rp partners, and probably have an unhealthy relationship with rp in general.

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I think we had the same player harassing us, did they play from Netflix MCU?

No, they played from anime.

nobody mentioned stalking or entitlement before you, so please stop projecting.

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