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so what you're saying is that you'd have respect for people who give you what you want and not enjoy things they want because someone made a bigger public outcry of wanting the thing so they clearly deserve it more? wouldn't it be nice to not be a pouty jerk about not getting what you want when someone who clearly wanted it, just like you did, got there first? instead of publically dragging them for sniping or being vocal about how 'disappointed you are'? that's a manipulative tactic. maybe you're not aware that it is, but it is. sitting there sighing about how you really want a chocolate ice cream and someone else got the chocolate ice cream and bemoaning how you don't like anything nearly as much as you like chocolate and you had your heart set on chocolate and wow you'd really like a chocolate ice cream... that's a manipulation tactic to get what you want and to have someone else go without something they got through legitimate means so you can have what you want.

frankly, i really don't care if you respect me or anyone who is quiet about their excitement or hedges their bets and doesn't vocalize about how much they want this character spot because someone else might get it ahead of them and they wind up getting it first. if someone wants the spot and they go for it, they shouldn't have to have said they want it in x number of places x times or had x more threads than y in memes and tdms just to prove they're as or more excited to play it.

one person's feelings aren't any more valid than another person's in the grand scheme of things. you can be disappointed. you expect them to be disappointed and give up what they want for you or the person you feel was louder in their wants. trust me, i don't want that kind of respect. i don't want to be someone's doormat because they respect my decision to let them walk over me to get what they want.

jfc you are wildly defensive about this. someone who whines and tries to guilt trip someone else who got something they wanted is shitty, but there's a big difference between "it was nice of you to let someone else have the thing you know they wanted" and "i want this thing you got to first and i'm going to intentionally try to make you feel guilty so you give it up". if someone helps an old lady crossing a street and gets mild praise for it, do you take said praise as a personal attack against you for not having done it yourself? chill the fuck out.

the two aren't even closely related and you know it, but hey, keep trying to justify that it's okay for you to want what you want and get it but not for someone else to want the same thing and get it before you do.

look at it as a promotion at work. you and bob are both up for a promotion. should bob step aside because you 'want it more'? no. you and bob are both up for promotion and if bob gets it, then it's because bob earned it. just like if someone gets a reserve in before you, they clearly wanted it enough to get there and get it first. i don't see how you can look at it as anything other than that. calling it sniping is just trying to justify you being a pouty asshole. it's not about *you*. it's about the spot, and maybe you beat them to it, or maybe they beat you. that's the process of how the system works. don't like it? don't try to app into games where you might have to not get what you want. or play ocs or obscure canons.

i love how i can literally say "no one is more deserving" and "you aren't a bad person if you get the thing you want anyway" and *still* someone tries to turn it into CLEARLY YOU THINK YOU DESERVE THINGS JUST FOR BEING LOUDER ABOUT IT AND YOU WANT TO GUILT OTHERS OUT OF THINGS THEY GOT TO FIRST!!1!

that's what i get for trying to show some appreciation for someone being nice i guess

okei

agree 100%

I can totally see not wanting to reserve if you see someone else all over the tdm, just because you don't want to deal with the wank fallout if you "snipe" them. rp is a small world after all.

but this bullshit about ~respect~ is manipulative as fuck. two people can want something and compete for it, and the winner isn't necessarily the bad guy even if the loser is really disappointed. did people not learn this in grade school?

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