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i feel you but at the same time i'm never going to be able to tell someone something like 'your writing sucks' as a reason...

so if you do get an answer it's likely to be vague stuff like "our styles don't mesh"

yeah, at least for me, it's easier to ghost than hurt someone's feelings by telling them i don't like how they write. it's never personal, but i know hearing that isn't pleasant. the uncomfortable confrontation with a stranger who i'll never know just isn't worth it.

granted i rarely go on memes anymore and bad writing wasn't as frequent a reason as me losing interest in the character, rl getting busy, or other external factors i could usually communicate up front instead.

Your're saying it as if ghosting doesn't hurt feelings. It's only easier for you, not the person you're ghosting.

that's true, it is easier for me. i can own up to that. why would people put themselves in uncomfortable situations when they can avoid it? i'm not saying it's the right choice.

must of us are so embittered now we practically expect the other party to ghost

so lmao yeah gonna sting way less than 'your writing sucks'

do you seriously think saying "i don't like your writing" is better than leaving them hanging

one of them will absolutely hurt someone's feelings and one of them will just leave the person annoyed and wondering at worst. why would anyone want to hurt a stranger's feelings? not to mention open the door for drama over nothing if the person happens to be crazy?

why would anyone want to hurt a stranger's feelings?

Ghosting does hurt feelings, even if you don't want to acknowledge it. If it didn't, we'd never have these threads where anons are saddened by it.

I guess I'll never understand why so many of you think it has to be only those options. Why not "Sorry, I need to drop this thread"? Or if you're truly uncomfortable or offended for having to say 'sorry', you can even leave that word out.

I've written this before but I can repeat it here: I don't have tons of time for rping. I want to have only a few threads at a time. If someone ghosts I'm left hanging and not knowing if they'll come back. I don't know that that they are ghosting. They could be sick or travelling or studying for an exam, but come back to our thread later.

Everyone here is always saying that we should wait at least a week before contacting a rp partner to ask if they want to continue. Now if I wait a week for nothing, that means I've lost time to start a new thread with someone else.

It wouldn't be nice to get "I don't like your writing", but with that, I can at least move on quicker and tag someone else in a meme. Your decision to ghost affects two people, not just me.

i'm the first anon who said i feel you. i meant that! it really sucks to get ghosted constantly and have no idea why it's happening. it's why i stopped playing my fave character.

if you'd be okay with a simple "sorry, i need to drop this thread," then that's fair and i agree totally and think people in dwrp should be more upfront about this. i just don't think anyone is ever going to be able to be super honest with their exact reasons for thread dropping without opening the door up to hurting feelings even more or being accused of being dishonest.

That's true.

But most of the time people here say that they drop threads because of personal reasons (the famous "It's not you, it's me").

Doesn't that then mean that players should have no trouble of giving their real reasons, because the real reason is that they suck, not the other person?

Maybe that's why people ghost. They don't want to admit being the bad rper.

don't be jelly i was a handmaiden of satan in another life

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