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anon, abuse isn't just about a physical inability to escape. when i suffered real life domestic abuse i could have left at any time. but what kept me there wasn't that i was physically trapped. it was that i was mentally trapped. i felt responsible for my abuser, i felt that if i left and cut contact with them they would die, that i would be responsible for killing someone. i felt that anything they did to me paled in comparison to what i would do to them if i left, so i let them do whatever they wanted, for years and years and years.

emotional abuse is far more insidious than you appear to think. the door can be wide open, and it can be as simple as a block button, but when someone's god you brainwashed that block button may as well be the trigger of a gun, pointed at the other person's head.

dude. i know that. but being in an emotionally abusive relationship with a person who lives near you or even WITH you is an entirely different beast than having a shitty rp partner

the I'M GOING TO KILL MYSELF behavior was rampant in like 2005 but we're all old enough to know better than to fall for that shit now. block, move on, and don't try to make the situation look more dramatic by claiming legitimate abuse. it looks like a grab for sympathy, and if you wanna play that game, that's pretty manipulative too

a block button being the trigger of a gun... jesus christ, anon

look i know it sounds dramatic, but it can really feel like that if you've had your head fucked with enough. it IS a different beast, but blowing it off as if it can't do real psychological damage to someone is rather short sighted. i've watched people drop out of school and blow off basic needs like eating and sleeping because someone's made them into their e-lifeline.

and even when you do try the "block, move on" method, sometimes that's not enough. there's a lot of ways to track people down and stalk them if you're really dedicated. make a new account, use a proxy. distance doesn't even preclude financial and social concerns these days. we do everything online. you can look up someone's family on facebook in two minutes. you can financially "support" (read: control) someone from a million miles away.

abuse is defined by an imbalance of power and a series of damaging behaviours that seek to control the victim. that can absolutely happen via an online relationship.

dude. stahp. the dramatics right now are out of control

i'm trying to have a genuine conversation with you about the definition of abuse and the ways it can occur, anon.

and i have told you i'm aware. i've also said i've been through my own shit. i don't need you to sit here and throw scarewords at me because i already know. all this is doing is blowing the situation way, way out of proportion and giving people like op an excuse to not do anything because ohhh x, y and z could happen

you KNOW the chances of op being in a situation like that are incredibly low. dw is full of shitty people with issues, but shitty people with issues who have the drive to actively stalk and ruin the lives of someone a million miles away? not so much. that's fucking rare

stop feeding in to the poor victim mentality in dw rp because once you turn everyone in to a victim, no one is anymore. save the drama for the real crazies

i'm not trying to turn everyone into a victim, though. you were giving me the impression that you thought abuse couldn't happen via an online relationship at all, which is what i was trying to refute. i wasn't really talking about op specifically, merely trying to give examples of how abuse can happen over any distance in this day and age.

why are you so incredibly hung up on the fact that this definition of 'abuse' isn't 'being beaten by a domestic partner'

a·buse
treat (a person or an animal) with cruelty or violence, especially regularly or repeatedly.

it's not a competition or be-all-end-all and you can absolutely be emotionally abused by an online friend that using a block button won't necessarily help at all.

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