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Sorry but it sounds like you're in victim mode. As hard as it is to not have support, you have to get through it yourself. Having been in similar circumstances, there are ways (healthy ones, mind) to get through stuff like this. For example, exercise helped me - and ironically I wound up quitting my job to become a personal trainer and nutritionist lol.

But that's just one example. There are ways to get out of bad situations, always, and they don't require you to lean to heavily on friends.

don't be a dick, anon. they just said they had suffered numerous deaths of loved ones in a row. they're allowed to be less than sunshine and rainbows at everyone they know.

there's a difference between victim and vulnerable.

Fuck off, anon. They said they're trying. Not everyone can just ~get over it~ that easily when life keeps shitting on them.

And also, no, they don't have to get through it themself. Obviously, yes, they shouldn't overload their friend to the point they're being toxic, but telling a struggling person to just get themselves through it without other people is horrible, harmful advice.

> step back and get some perspective
> it's something i've been trying

idk anon it sounds like they're trying to get through it themself in healthy ways and not burden their friend

I hesitate to trust that the advice you're giving people for their physical states (ie: exercise and nutrition) is up to snuff if that's your advice to people who are struggling (and openly admitting to trying) with their mental state. You need to re-examine the difference between self-reliance in healthy individuals and self-reliance in those who've had a hundred holes poked in the jet fuel tanks of their lives.

On the other hand, I understand what you're trying to say, in that you need to be willing to get it through that change comes from within, but when ayrt has clearly been taking different steps to bounce back from various hardships, this advice is not only off base, but harmful. Save the tough love for those who refuse to otherwise move their lump-asses, or better yet, you might consider gently shoving it up your ass, since it seems to have done you so well by your struggling lonesome.

physical state reflects mental state - that's just the truth.

There are proven scientific links between nutrient deficiencies and many mental illnesses. Our bodies can't work the way they should without all the stuff they need. It would be like showing up to work for an office job and being expected to do it 100% when they ran out of paper and you have a ton of stuff to print up, except your body can't always go and get what it needs like you could run to the store and buy some paper.

And yet this person seems to be advocating for exercising the pain away and just 'getting over it' despite the fact that the anony they were referring to has been trying a number of methods to alleviate their mental health, knowing full well that said anon is under unusually difficult circumstances.

I'm not disagreeing that mental and physical health are linked. I completely agree.

What I disagree with is this anon's blasé attitude towards someone struggling with a particularly bad set of circumstances who is otherwise usually mentally well. What it suggests is that they ignore warning signs or badly misinterpret them. Exercise is fantastic, until you stop paying attention at a crucial moment or misunderstand what a client is experiencing and they pinch a nerve or roll an ankle or drop a weight on their head. Nutritional advice is just super, until you misdiagnose a client's needs and either force a regimen on them that's way outside their budget or even put them on a plan that fucks with allergies or pre-existing conditions.

Because mental health and physical health are so closely linked, I would not trust this anon to treat a person right based on their responses to the warning signs at hand. They are just the kind of person that tough-life-situation anon might turn to in order to get out of their funk and this person's response is to ignore it and focus 110% on getting swole? Man, come on. That's begging for years-later bottled-up reminders to ruin above anon's day when those thoughts and feelings haven't been given room to be understood, let alone felt and processed.

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