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people who "listen to everything" and "don't have a favorite band/genre" are bland-ass motherfuckers and/or liars.

or... maybe they just don't have favorites because they like a lot of everything. sorry you're that limited?

and yeah, i like a lot of everything. classical, rock, hip hop, trance, blues. i think the only genres i don't like are polka, christian rock, and speed metal. and no, i don't have a favorite band. i rarely like everything from one band. i'll like a few songs here or there, not everything this band/singer puts out.

gee, amazing how different people can like different things in different ways. almost like we're not a hivemind.

i don't think they're liars, but it does annoy me to no end when i ask what they listen to and they say that

how am i supposed to have a conversation with someone that doesn't even know what they like? are they literally incapable of even the most basic of introspection that they don't even know what their personal preferences are? wtf

fyi, not having a favorite doesn't mean they don't like something. you can have the same conversation with them as you would with anyone else. they can still like what you like. it's just not their number one favorite.

what is with you absolutes weirdos.

Hiya, anons. I... need some help.

I have this friend, we've known each other for years now, but it's only been recently that we've started hanging out together and doing stuff together and genuinely talking. I feel like we get on pretty well, we rarely have any big disagreements on when we do disagree on something, we usually end up talking and seeing eye-to-eye with each others' points. We've not really had a fight-fight. Not only that, but they're someone I'm not afraid to be more honest with than I am with most other people. I usually tend to bite my tongue about my feelings, but I'm slightly more candid with them. I have a lot of emotional securities and mental health issues that I don't typically divulge to people, but I've let them know about them- and likewise, they've shared much of the same with me, telling me things they've apparently never told anyone before, for fear of being judged- and I don't judge them for those things (even if some make me a bit worried).

Lately, though, they've been getting a bit clingy. And I don't mean the RP clingy, like passive-aggressive whining about being ignored- actually, they're incredibly patient. But they have dreams about me, and then wake up worried that the dreams are going to come true, things like that. They also seem to have a pretty idealized version of me in their head, they think incredibly highly of me which would be more flattering if it didn't make me feel so... inadequate next to the regards they hold me in. I feel like they think I'm something or someone I'm not, sometimes, and it can be a little frustrating for me to feel like I'm going to inevitably disappoint someone.

Because of all of these things the friendship is starting to feel a little heavy, and I feel like I'm starting to draw myself away from them. I don't want to hurt their feelings, I'd hate to do that- but at the same time, I feel a little suffocated, not only by their attention but by the bar they've set for me to climb. They've been super supportive of me, though, and the last thing I want to do is make them feel like I'm angry with them. I'm not, at all, but I'm worried if I pull away any they'll assume I am upset with them somehow.

I'm just not sure how to tackle this. Any advice?

I think they do? But not to Pepper's obsessive level.

borrowing from the normal anon above but if you get and yeah, i like a lot of everything. classical, rock, hip hop, trance, blues. i think the only genres i don't like are polka, christian rock, and speed metal in reply to your question and you can't string two sentences together in reply, then you're honestly the dumbass weirdo here

you're still in high school, right?

but the anon was talking about not even having an answer when they ask what they like. it's one thing to not have a favorite, but if you can't list a few things that you like non-categorically, it's hard to hold a conversation about it. and this goes for anything.

even if you don't have a favorite, giving me a list of 2-3 or even 3-5 is better than no answer. it's difficult to find common ground in an "i don't know" answer.

but that's an answer, though. "i like everything" or "i don't know, i don't have a favorite," and not being able to give like a few examples of things you like, even if you don't love them, makes it harder.

the anon you quoted gave a wide berth of interests but you can pick a topic better out of that ('oh, cool, do you like [musician]?') than 'everything' or 'I don't know.' One leaves a lot of room for assumption (if you tell me you listen to everything i'm going to start grilling you about danger music) and the other is the biggest non-answer i'm just going to assume we aren't going to hold a conversation and bugger off

that's not what they said. they said they 'listen to everything' and 'don't have a favorite genre/band'. if you ask someone 'what's your favorite band' and their answer is 'i hate music', then yeah, you can't have a conversation, but if you were to ask me that (the i like a lot of things anon), i might answer 'well, i don't really have a favorite, but there's a lot of things i do like. what's your favorite?', because lbr here, most people ask things like that because they have something specific they want to talk about.

if asked for examples, i can and often do list off a bunch, but i've always hated any 'what's your favorite' questions, because i just don't have favorite out of things with huge pools to pick from. what's my favorite movie? i don't have one. i have a handful or more of ones i really like and can watch over and over again, but i don't have one or even two favorites.

that's not weird, btw. it's just different ways of processing things. i have friends that are like me, but i have ones who have very specific things they like. this is their favorite coffee, this is their favorite song, this is their favorite movie. and that's cool. but op started it in an inflammatory way to make not having one ring to rule them all sound like someone was too dumb to like something.

the ayrt was talking about people not having an answer about what they like. i'm not talking about op.

it's not weird to not have a one specific favorite but "i like everything" and "i don't know" are non-answers, really

tbh a better question for op to ask is "do you have a genre of music you like?" instead of "who is your favorite," so they can either list a genre or say "yeah i'm really into late 80's synth pop like a-ha"

"i don't think they're liars, but it does annoy me to no end when i ask what they listen to and they say that ['i don't know'/'i like everything']

how am i supposed to have a conversation with someone that doesn't even know what they like? are they literally incapable of even the most basic of introspection that they don't even know what their personal preferences are? wtf"

the two things are incorrect. if they say i like everything, then they do know what they like. they just don't have a favorite. their personal preferences are that they are open to and like everything. i honestly don't get why this is such a hard concept to grasp. and again, if you were to ask me, 'do you have a genre of music you like', i'd answer like what i did above, which is, 'i don't have one i like, but i do enjoy (list of many genres)'. which, let me tell you, can piss people off when they want a 'favorite'. sorry i don't have a favorite. i like songs. specific songs. i might like four songs from rolling stones, but not more. that doesn't mean i love rolling stones, but i sure as shit like four of their songs.

that's generally what people like me think of when you ask us that. "do I have a favorite? no, not really." because a favorite means something to me. if i say something is my favorite, i mean that shit. it's not my favorite of the day or year or w/e. i can't even answer what my favorite food is because it depends on how i'm feeling, weather, what i'm in the mood for. i can say my favorite season is autumn. that's one of my few legitimate favorites, but that's out of a pool of four. the bigger the selection, the less i'm going to be able to settle on one. because i just like a lot of things.

this got tldr and i know, i'm caring too much, but it's a pita to be told you're weird or incapable of talking because 'eh, i don't know, i like everything' is now a non answer. it's an answer. it's just not one you wanted.

nah i just have literally no attention span so my favorite band or genre at any given moment is just flavor of the week

one week ill be like, EDM is my life, and the next ill be listening to fuzzy low-fi, and the next idk fuckin violin covers or smth

i mean, you are going to have to talk to them. you've just talked about how they're somebody you can trust and be candid with, and you've known each other for years. i think you should be fine having a gentle-but-honest discussion about your feelings.

if you don't want them to think you're angry at them, make that really clear. i'd point out that you feel like they have you on a pedestal, and that you feel pressured to try and live up to this idealized vision of yourself that doesn't actually exist, while also making it clear that you appreciate how much they care about you, and that they care about you too.

one thing i'm sure you've probably considered from the sounds of it is that they might have developed feelings for you? obviously you would know better than me, but if that's the case, maybe provide an opportunity for them to talk about that? i mean, don't force it or make assumptions, but just give them an opportunity to express themselves, if they want to. if they really have developed feelings for you it's better to air that out rather than just have them sit and fester.

basically, you should tell them what you just told us right here, albeit with some more grace and sensitivity. honesty and communication are the key to any long term relationship of any sort.

liking and enjoying something are the same thing you incredible tryhard hipster special snowflake

... no one said they weren't, you knobtastic plebeian. you can like and enjoy something and not have it be a favorite. putting one or a few above everything else isn't something everyone does.

you're one of those people that have problems with more than one or two sentences in a row, aren't you?

Sorry, I meant specifically a warden sleeping with their own inmate. I've seen mod-type people say that would be considered sketchy behavior for a warden.

ok but what if seth is a mod

Are there any games with an active Tales of the Abyss cast?

either you're going to have to wait and hope they grow or hurt their feelings a little. idealizing someone commonly includes assuming they're just modest as hell, so unless your friend's done this before (or can look at their own thought processes objectively, which doesn't sound like the case), you're going to have to do something to deviate from their current impression of you.

clearing the air and taking a little break might be good for both of you. i would go with above anon's suggestion, but substituting 'gentle' for 'firm'.

preferring a few genres or even just one doesn't make anybody limited, lmao. how does having just one favorite make you limited? rock is my favorite but i still like pop, metal, electronic, classical, etc.

when people ask for your favorite, you don't have to choose one, hope that helps. if somebody pesters you to "just choose one tho!" then you can tell them to shove it. if you don't have a favorite band, you can just say "i don't have a favorite but i really like blues music!"

god, you're stupid.

Sounds like a crush even if they don't know they're crushing yet. You need to pop it like a soap bubble if you don't want them getting more and more into it, or just shed a light on their expectations and ask them to keep it realistic. Keeping that sort of thing un-verbalized only grows it... it might already be a little too irrationally entrenched.

there's nothing (musician or genre) you consistently like?

Go to bed, anon

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