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Hi everyone. I don't know where else to go anymore, so I'm dropping a comment here. For all you psychanons or anxious anons... what kind of therapy works? How can you make the feelings go away?

I feel like I have crippling anxiety that comes and goes in cycles. When it rolls in, anything at all can set it off. Small things, big things, and then I find my day consumed with choking up, pains in my stomach and chest, and complete paralysis. By the end of the day I end up in despair and distress because I could not stir myself to any activity at all. I have tried yoga, and ended up crying for an hour after I finished a session. I heard breathing techniques can help, but if they can, I haven't been able to find one that'll open up my throat and lungs properly. I turn to friends and family, but no one knows the right thing to do or say to calm me down. I don't even know what will calm me down when I am at my worst.

I don't know what it means that it seems to come in cycles. I can have a few months where I feel absolutely horrible and walk through life choked-up and unable to act in any large capacity, and I can have another few months where I am perfectly happy, excitable, and productive. I rarely have much of an in-between.

Should I seek therapy? What kind? What other options are there for me? I am tired of feeling this way because it is painful and it worries all the people in my life. I am out of ideas. I feel like I'm losing control.

yes seek therapy

sometimes that step can be hard but you're talking about it here even if you're anon, that's a great thing! But you need to find a professional to talk to asap, and just reaching out to someone will help with feeling out of control, trust me I know and I needed a severe kick in the ass to go do it.

mention to your doctor, if you have one, that this is a problem you have, particularly the cycles, if you're female note where it hits with regards to your period, hormones can mess you up big time. if you don't have a regular doctor, find one. They can send you on your way to a recommended therapist. From my experiences with therapists the first one you try might not be the one, you want someone you feel is helping you specifically and helping rather than trying to string you along for your cash as long as possible.

I hesitate to say it as I'm not a medical professional at all but given that you have no inbetween, bipolar disorder might be a possibility, when you're happy do you feel a little out of control and bouncy with it, wanting to do everything all at once? start a million new projects because you feel so good?

I've always been a little bit worried regarding bipolarity. If that's what it is, I don't know if it's all that severe. I guess I'm a little bit manic and excitable when I'm feeling great, but I dont' know if it's to the extent of bipolarity.

That said, my grandmother was diagnosed and medicated for bipolar disorder during her lifetime. I'm not sure if I'm anywhere near how she was like, but I suspect my family would have said so a long time ago. My dad has similar anxious behaviors to myself, and I recognize that, even though I know that I've looked at how he behaves and worries and thought to myself that he is out of control.

Regarding cycles - hormones and drugs mess me up big time. It's why I stay away from things like birth control, and I'm hesitant to ask for any SSRIs. My body does not seem to like any kind of medication, and I either have a pretty substantial adverse reaction, feel sick all the time, or lose motivation completely and become a zombie. :-(a I've been dragging my feet on getting myself back to the doc, and I guess that is a good place to start. Thanks for the starting point, anon.

I'm really sensitive to medicationsamd have recently stopped taking them and am trying to control my bipolar through exercise, diet, and therapy. So far it's working(knock onwood). I pushed on with meds that didn't work for too long bc I didn't want to think I couldn't use them. But all my suicide attempts, out of control manias, and rapid cycling shifts have only come on shortly after med changes. That being said, try them and physical side effects aside if you feel worse or like you're going actually crazy start halfing your dose and try something new.

With bipolar you do have in betweens though. You don't just hop from depressed to manic endlessly.

absolutely seek therapy. in the meantime, you might want to look up some basic cognitive behavioral therapy tactics to try to mitigate these anxious cycles. THIS IS NOT A SUBSTITUTE FOR WORKING WITH A PROFESSIONAL.

this is something that can be treated. something like CBT can work wonders under the guidance of a professional, but not everything works for everyone. work with a psychologist and a psychiatrist to find the right treatment plan for you. this may include medication, something I strongly recommend that you do not fear. you can always stop taking it. again, you would do this under the guidance of your psychiatrist or physician if you don't have access to one.

yoga is great as a relaxation method when used in conjunction with therapy, and I strongly suggest that you investigate it again at a later date. breathing exercises will help a great deal. even just forcing yourself to take full, regular breaths during a bout of anxiety will help mitigate the effects even if it doesn't 'fix' things.

I want you to look into this ASAP and it doesn't matter whether you're having a good period or a bad period. if you have to, look up all the information for setting yourself up with a therapist and then have a trusted friend or family member make the calls you need to set up appointments. don't hesitate.

Any recommendations for finding a good therapist? I always get stuck on looking for someone who is any good.

if you have insurance, contact your insurance company for a list of covered providers. you can google them and find out more about their practice. for example, it was important to me to have an lgbt friendly therapist, so I narrowed down my list to investigate by that criteria.

a lot of it is just trying people, though. you kind of have to try people out to get a feel for them, and don't feel bad if you need to just cut off the relationship with the therapist and find someone else. even a good therapist that isn't good for you will agree that it is the best route.

CBT is a good form of therapy for social anxiety.

I heard that, but I'm not entirely sure what it entails. I guess I should look into therapists... any recommendations for finding a good one?

CBT is pretty much exposure therapy.

For me, I didn't really go outside so it started with walking to the end of the road regularly. Then the local shops. Then going on a bus up to town. So on.

I honestly wouldn't have a clue how to find a therapist in the US, i'm in the UK so I literally just went to see my doctor and she referred me via the NHS.

There is a CBT app created by Linehan for your phone. I would look into it. It isn't a substitute for therapy but it is a great tool.

Huh, I'll look into that. I don't know much about CBT. My mind just kind of jumps to, "Face things that make you anxious and cry a lot and eventually get better." Classic oversimplification, but such is how I think of it.

Sorry! Linehan is DBT, not CBT! That being said, there are apps for both CBT and DBT.

http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2013/01/16/top-10-mental-health-apps/

I have quite a few of these apps on my phone. Also, I love Optimism. It's a really great mood tracker and can help you identify behaviours or habits that impact your mental health. For me a lot of sugar over the span of a few days tends to cause me to go into a depressed state. I keep track of my diet in the notes section because diet has such a huge impact on mental wellness.

Thanks for this!! Looks like a great resource! Already got some of the apps :)

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