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[(Anonymous)]

I'm feeling burnt out by multiple friends coming to me to say how neglected they feel in RP. How bad they/their character must be; because no one is tagging them.

Except, they are getting tags. Just two/three days ago they were talking about having trouble keeping up with all their tags. They've shared with me their fav threads. I see their starters getting lots of tag ins.

Meanwhile, my stuff sits empty and untouched. I tag out constantly and I'll be lucky if I get one or two tags back before being dropped.

It's getting harder and harder to be supportive and not make things about me. Sometimes I just want to snap and say: just do your tags and be glad you're not me.

[(Anonymous)]

honestly, that's a sign to dump those people ime. they're the sort of people who think that everyone should recognize how wonderful they are and that toxicity will eventually leak over into their relationship with you. they can't handle being anything less than the center of attention from everyone else and think that someone not tagging them back right away is a personal slight.

[(Anonymous)]

+1

like, maybe don't cut them off cold turkey or anything but i would also probably start moving away from them. the 'woe is me' attitude when you're not getting ignored gives "i want tags... but not these ones" vibes and that's just not conductive to a fun, healthy hobby environment. i assume you guys are friends for reasons unrelated to just rp, which is why i'm hesitant to say just dump them but if that isn't the case...

this is only going to get worse, op. you're better off giving yourself some distance from it.

[(Anonymous)]

ayrt and exactly, they're the sort of people who treat you as a fun dispenser. they'll be really interested and into you when you're giving them the tags they want/playing the characters they want to play with, but the moment you stop, they'll drop you for someone else because ultimately their interest in the friendship is based around what they can get out of it.

[(Anonymous)]

tbh I would be that person who screencaps our earlier conversation about them having too many tags and send it to them with "this u?"

[(Anonymous)]

I usually bring that up if they do it too often with "Didn't you say you were overwhelmed with tags just recently?"

I just don't have the patience for that if I see it, especially if it is being brought to me directly. It's a double-edged sword because sometimes it can have them stop talking to you entirely, but personally I'd prefer that over getting stressed by the attention-seeking.

[(Anonymous)]

it sounds like some boundaries will help. you can always tell them that you appreciate them confiding in you but you're not in the space right now to discuss this, or you can say that you're feeling quite low yourself and steer the conversation to be about you. if they can't handle that, then they're not your friends. you're allowed to express yourself!

[(Anonymous)]

I like this one. Play the uno reverse card and see how it goes.