anon, I wouldn't find it offensive and I warn people about my schedule when they hit me up because I know different speeds can tank interest pretty easily

and I'm not saying this to say 'omg my experience is different, you're wrong!!!' but rather to point out that if there's a lot of people on rpa who wouldn't be offended, and 100% of the people you dealt with were fucking offended, that might be a sign you might want to have a trusted friend read your response before you send it to this random person because it's not something inherent to speed issues