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[(Anonymous)]

how do i tell a psl partner that i haven't responded to our psl because i found out i had a tumor, had surgery, and have been going to appointments almost every week? i don't want to sound like i want a pity party, much less like i'm a flake, but i genuinely haven't had the energy to enjoy myself/respond due to dealing with all of this. :(

[(Anonymous)]

i mean. depending on how well you know the person, "i had a tumor, had surgery, and have been going to appointments almost every week and the whole thing has left me devoid of energy" seems about right

if you'd rather keep that sort of stuff private a general "i've been having some health issues that have left me seriously drained and i'm sorry for not getting to our stuff earlier"

i get that you don't want to sound like a pity party but sometimes trying to be evasive or cagey about it for no reason other than "oh i don't want to sound like i'm trying to get you to pity me" just makes you sound worse. then again maybe this is the kind of tittybaby to actually get upset if you bring up that you've had legitimate health issues. who knows.

ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

thanks for this! :)

they wouldn't be the kind of person to be upset, i would think. it's just one of those things that i wouldn't want to drop on someone w/o warning, because it's a pretty heavy subject.

[(Anonymous)]

I'd just stick with telling them you had some health problems and not go into too much detail. Let them know you're still getting treated (if you are) and need more time and just wanted to give them a heads up rather than completely ghost on them.

ayrt

[(Anonymous)]

thanks, anon!

[(Anonymous)]

Just tell them you're going through some stuff and still interested but that you will be slow and/or unavailable for a while. That puts it in their court whether they want to pick it back up later.

I pretty much only set up PSLs that I will never lose interest in, and if someone vanishes for a while and then comes back, I'm just happy to have the PSL back. I don't mind personal details but I don't need them either. Though you've now inspired me to send out a couple "Hey its been a while but I'm still down for this if you're ever up for picking it back up" pms.

[(Anonymous)]

Tell your PSL partner that you have some serious medical issues that you're getting treatment for, and that these medical issues are impacting your ability to RP right now. If you want to continue the PSL, let them know you're still interested, but will be very slow for the forseeable future.

[(Anonymous)]

"Hey, I'm sorry for vanishing on you. I've been dealing with some health problems that have sapped a lot of my energy, but I'm still interested in continuing our PSL. Would it be cool if I messaged you once I'm feeling better so we can pick back up again or start something new?"

[(Anonymous)]

everyone else has good advice covered, so i just wanna wish you well, anon. i hope treatment goes as smoothly as possible. take care of yourself!

[(Anonymous)]

how would just mentioning serious health problems that impact your life be seen as a pity party?

[(Anonymous)]

To be fair, there is a contingent of anons who think anyone they play with should be a tag dispensing robot and any mention of real life is burdening them unfairly.

But no one should want to play with those fuckwits anyway.