if you pm people for plotting don't let them draw you into non-rp related chat. an example that happened to me: someone would consistently start dropping in paragraphs about how awful and stressful their rl is while apologizing for their slowness. i made the mistake of engaging (instead of just giving an "oh i'm sorry, that must suck!") and it quickly lead to novels about their problems and them trying to make me their online therapist. the very thing i disabled my plurk in order to escape. i was stupid, don't be like me. don't engage.

i've never experienced this problem when plotting via posts/comments in ooc comms. i wish more games would use ooc comms.

it's worth mentioning at least that without plurk/discord, you will be missing out on things because some players exclusively look for cr and discuss plots and threads on those platforms. game cr memes are a crapshoot. even tagging out can be a crapshoot in games. there's just too many flakes these days. but you'll also be avoiding a fuckton of ooc drama and the social hoops you have to jump through before people will thread with you, so maybe it evens out in the end. you'll miss opportunities, but also avoid a lot of stress.