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if somebody on plurk/tumblr announced that they had a health problem that might kill them or significantly shorten their lifespan, would you want to know?

how much would you care or want to know if they were a game acquaintance, close canonmate, otp partner, etc.? or if they were a fandom friend instead of an rp partner.

how would you feel if they wanted to spend their remaining time rping stupid shit with you rather than "significant" bucket list activities?

if it depends on the health problem (cancer vs organ failure vs heart problems vs...), specifying is optional but appreciated.

what the fuck kind of thread is this op

sorry. i'm dealing with something with no official diagnosis yet and my symptoms point to something that might lead to organ failure.

it's not something like "i coughed, must be lung cancer!" i've been exposed to some dangerous stuff and have legitimate reasons to worry.

i don't think i'll be dead in the next year or two (...probably) but it's getting worse and i'm worried.

i'm sorry, anon. i hope it turns out better than you're fearing.

FUCK no. We're almost definitely not that close.

honestly, if i did have to announce it i wouldn't put it in the op. i'd warn for personal/health/depressing stuff.

if somebody doesn't want to read it, they're not obligated to.

yes so i could try & ingratiate myself and get some of that will $$$$

Sure, go ahead and you too can have a part of my debt.

nice try, anon, most roleplayers are poor as fuck.

"poor as fuck" as in "i'm gonna call myself broke and poor all the time even though i live with my parents rent-free and work part-time and don't go to school", sure

You're not going to get their parents' money through someone's will, come on.

I wouldn't care either way, but it would be nice to know what happened when they are gone. I'd also not judge if they wanted to spend their time rping with me. Suddenly knowing they have a limited amount of time to live doesn't make financial issues vanish that may have prevented travel and such. The important thing is them being happy with what they choose to spend their time with.

the wank in our stars

I'd want to know so I could offer my sympathy and wouldn't be left worrying when they disappeared. And I'd want to see if I could do anything for them in the time they had left, and also maybe would want to send something nice to their family after they were gone, if they were cool with it.

It wouldn't matter how close we are. As long as we were friendly in some way, I'd care.

I'm not sure what you mean with them spending all their remaining time RPing with me. If they just wanted to play a lot, and didn't expect me to dedicate all my time to them, and were happy with getting to play with me when we could, it'd be fine. I'd try to give them some extra time so we could rp all the things we wanted to get to.

On the other hand, if they expected me to dedicate all my free time to RPing with them, I'd hate being put on the spot like that. The only people I'd dedicate all my time to if they were dying, where I would try to help them enjoy all the time they had left, would be my siblings or RL friends. I'd still be willing to give a friend that wasn't as close some extra time, and try to give them warmth and affection, and maybe try to do nice things for them like sending them gifts they could enjoy in the moment, but I wouldn't like it if someone else made me that responsible for their happiness. If I were sick, I'd never expect someone else to dedicate all their time to me.

So it depends on the nature of them wanting to spend their time rping stupid shit. If they just wanted it a lot, but respected I had my own life, that's fine. I'd try to give them extra time. But I'd feel really pressured and weird about it if they expected me to put my entire life on hold to do it during all my free hours.

The health problem wouldn't matter. Death is death. Dying young is dying young. It sucks no matter what, so I'd have sympathy no matter what.

oh no, i don't mean it like "i'm dying in 6 months, rp with me 24/7 until i die or you're a piece of shit!"

i mean it more like "i'm dying in 6 months and i wanna spend it doing pretendy fun-times and watching anime, and i would love it if we could play this and that sometime."

I'd be okay with that. Like I said, if I was gonna lose a buddy, even just an RP buddy, I'd even give them some extra time, and I wouldn't judge how they wanted to spend it. It's just it'd be a lot of pressure if they were zeroing in on me specifically to entertain them.

Anyway, I saw in another post you said you might be sick with something serious, and I'm sorry to hear that, anon. I hope the diagnosis turns out to be something else that you can get better from.

Honestly, difference in severity aside, I see no difference between this and people who talk about their chronic illnesses and the like on plurk already.

If they were someone I was closer with and chatted to on a regular basis, and they said they wanted to spend their last months rping with me, you bet your ass I'd wanna know. I'd probably ask if they'd be comfortable with me visiting them at some point, even if just to chat and rp in the same room for once.

But I admit: my main social life these days are people I know through rp, so I see the people here with a pretty strong community feel verses the "I'm not here to make friends" folks, so my answer might be skewed by that.

Agreeing with this. Some of my closest friends are rpers from other states and I'd want to know, even if if means visiting or facetiming. I didn't go in to make friends but it happened.

I think I'd feel more closure knowing they passed in those cases.

I feel this way and RP isn't my primary social life. I just don't see a difference in my rl friends and my rp ones in that they are all people I care about and want in my life. Sure, some of them are people I do rl things with and some are people I've never met, but if I talk to someone regularly, they are my friend regardless of proximity.

one of my friends has a clique for her chronic illness and really, I think she went about it the best way possible. she made a plurk that was asking 'hey, I don't want to spam up people's timelines with talk about chronic illness that might involve common triggers or phobias x/y/z, who wants to be on this clique'.

because at least with some people on my plurk, I just don't KNOW them well enough to feel comfortable talking about their personal illness or death and others might not feel comfortable LISTENING to me talk about personal illness or death.

no, but that's because i've been dealing with a family member's decline for about a year now, and i just don't have the emotional energy to be anyone else's medical sounding board. i wouldn't begrudge anyone wanting to talk about it, obviously, just...not to me.

as long as you make sure the people you're telling are up for helping you bear some pretty heavy shit, you should be fine.

I'd want to know.

Your social media account is about you, your life, and what you're comfortable with expressing in front of others , not what people want to read. If they have a problem, they can mute or unfollow. You're not responsible for managing their comfort level for them, especially when you have so much on your plate.

I'm really sorry you're ill, anon, and I hope things improve for you.

sure. however...

only if they want to share it. dwrp has this weird combination of people who are afraid to communicate and those people who want to know everything, even if it's none of their business. they think it's their right to know everything about everyone, and they want to overshare everything as well.

if someone wants to share this with me, i'm cool with that, but i'm also cool with them wanting to keep it quiet.

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