rpanons | You sound fat

Rundown:

rpanons is an anonymous community for role-play related topics. This place serves as a forum for game discussions, canon discussions, RP solicitations (ATP, game ads, open memes), and advice. The occasional off topic comment is inevitable, but please keep heated social and political topics to their respective communities. Posting them here will only get them frozen. Subsequent threads made to bypass a freeze will then be deleted.

Rules:

Do not post pornographic or shocking images.
Do not share private entries, plurks, chat logs, etc.
Do not use this community as your social/political/hatespeech soapbox.
Do not be redundant. One page does not need three or more threads on one topic/theme. Your unfunny, forced memes also fall under this rule.
Do not treat this comm like your personal therapist. Threads about nonfictional suicide, self injury, rape, and abuse will be deleted. There are better resources out there for you.
Do not treat this comm like your personal Plurk or Twitter. Off-topic happens, but it should be open for discussion and not just a play-by-play of your life. No one cares.
Shut up about Tumblr. If it's not a discussion about Tumblr RP it will be deleted.

CONCERNS | RESOURCES

Flat | Top-Level Comments Only

do anons have any tips on getting into a long distance relationship? everyone in my area on dating sites doesn't mesh with me and i'm completely open to a ldr. it doesn't help that i'm trans and there are only so many other bi people in my area, much less bi people who are likeable.

i'm a member of okcupid and i frequently check out people in other states but most people that seem cool are only looking for friends/relationships near them. :( it'd be nice if there was an option to only show me people looking for other people "anywhere."

i will not date someone from dwrp. too risky.

tbh all of my long distance relationships have happened via shared online hobbies, which in my case mostly means rp. if you're determined not to date someone from dwrp, my advice would be to find other online hobby communities that are trans-friendly and bi-friendly and try meeting people there.

dating sites aren't bad for meeting people near you but if you're looking for an ldr i find it's best to have a shared activity that you can do "together" (so not something that has to be in person) to help you stay close in the absence of in-person contact.

i've been in a ldr for almost two years with a trans person i met on okcupid. so don't give up hope!

even if it says 'near me', it wouldn't hurt to send a message anyway.

why do you need to tell us they're trans

did you want a pat on the back

"it doesn't help that i'm trans and"

From the OP

It's relevant, you idiot

no1curr

don't. if you think dwrpers are uniquely awful in the context of long distance relationships, you obviously don't know what you're getting into, and you're going to be a complete disaster.

Met someone through LJRP years back.

Been married a few years now.

They key is to spend a long time getting to know them and talking about offline things that aren't JUST RP.

it truly is the key. i tried to have a relationship with an rper a while back, but mine didn't work out. i thought we would be fine because we didn't even rp with each other much! we didn't have much friend overlap, we only shared a couple fandoms, and we rarely were in the same game together.

problem was... most of our conversations were still about rp. i could tell you years worth of rp drama i heard from her, but i couldn't tell you much else about her life or interests. part of that was absolutely my fault too because i never tried THAT hard to steer her away from the topic of rp, even if i was tired of hearing about it. but to be fair she never asked me about myself either, so. yeah. it kind of felt like, why bother. it was just bad.

if you find someone interesting, don't avoid them just because they rp. it can work out! but make sure they have something they care about besides just rp and fandom, and make sure you BOTH show interest in each others' lives.

as someone in an ldr don't do it unless you have the funds to go visit them sometime. i love my s/o but it could be years before i see them again and the realization of that just sucks. we never got too serious when we met irl either so there isn't anything pressing either one of us to make the push yet.

this. make an effort to see each other. even if it takes a lot of saving up and sacrifices being able to see each other in person makes a huge difference. otherwise there's just a lot of pain involved in the wait and uncertainty.

You sound fat

no subject

no subject

no subject

no subject

DA

Re: DA

no subject

no subject

+1

no subject

+1