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what do you guys do to deal with rp insecurity?

do you take a hiatus? do you reread your threads to see what's making you feel anxious? do you ignore it and tag on? im facing this right now because i opened my email this morning, saw my tags and suddenly thought "crap im doing SOMETHING wrong with x. idk what it is but its terrible and shame on you anon for being terrible."

I reassure myself that every single tag doesn't have to be perfect. This isn't professional writing. It's for fun and to contribute to other's fun. I'll read it over before I post it and do my best but if I get doubts after its posted I tell myself its best to go with your first gut response. Then I remind myself that if people weren't enjoying my tags they wouldn't be tagging me back. Really. No matter what excuse my mind would like to tell me. I DON'T stop writing. Because then it goes from 'not good enough writing' to 'left it to long and now I can't go back because its been too long' and that's worse to fight through.

What my mind thinks isn't always right or accurate of a situation. I recognize that and try to pay attention to when it's being a baby on me. Often, it has nothing to do with my tags and there's something else entirely bothering me but tags are easier to worry over.

I honestly just kick that insecurity in the face and plow through my tags. It's taken me several years to realize I don't have to be perfect (and there are still times where I apologize for my suckitude, bad habit) and know that my rp partners will come to me if I'm doing something wrong.

It's better than letting your brain best you and then just leaving the tags sit until they're archaic, at least to me. I hope you find a way to get through this insecurity!

I'm having that at the moment.

Even though it has no basis in reality, I can't shake the feeling that all my thread partners only tolerate my tags to be polite and I'm one of the shittier players in my game. It sucks and I wish I knew how to get rid of it other than to try and keep telling myself over and over that it's not true.

I hope your RP anxiety gets better soon, anon!

I allow myself to do what feels like "below-average" tags - just, give them a descriptive sentence, an introspection sentence, and a statement or action to reply to (with whatever filler feels easy), and go on. Don't overthink them. Allow myself not to care too much about length or what my partner thinks. Maybe allow myself to focus on tags I'm particularly amped about instead of ones I need to think more on. And then wait a few days.

My RP insecurity is tied into mood, time of the month, alignment of the stars, I don't even know. I just know that a log I reread and go "UGH GROSS MEDIOCRE AND BORING" one day, I can usually wait three days, go back, and feel proud of that exact same log. It really is just a weird brain-thing that cures itself, usually.

If it's longer-term, canon-review or asking someone to spam some fun easy PSL shit with that character helps me feel in the groove again.

first, I sacrifice a child to the lord of light

tried this and all i got was a fucking selwyn tag

thanks for nothing melisandre

I've overcome most of my RP insecurity by becoming too depressed to have the energy to get worked up about it anymore

yep. unfortunately i don't have much motivation to tag either

I've been out of RP for a while, but now looking to get back in, I'm disappointed to realize that I'm still as insecure about my writing and characterization as ever. So I feel you, anon. In the past the only thing that's consistently knocked me out of it is receiving unsolicited praise from RP partners or people reading my threads, but that's obviously not something you can count on, so idk.

take a couple days/a week off to decompress, then block here and wg for a while. constant negativity is shit on your self confidence even when it's not directed at you, so an anoncomm break might really help you find your stride again.

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