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No it shouldn't, so get the fuck out of my LGBT because you're the same people who make arguments that the icky bi people don't belong.

Like literally, the arguments against asexuals are the same exact arguments that people try to use to keep bis out.

straight asexuals don't belong, tho

and i'm saying this as a straight asexual btw

im not queer in any way shape or form

IDK why you'd say that. That's like saying, "If you're bi and currently with someone of the opposite sex, you don't belong because Straight Passing."

because 'asexual' isn't a sexuality. this argument will go on until the dawn of time. you might not want to have sex, but you're not getting persecuted for it. the excuses i see for why asexuals are persecuted are 'people are always telling me to have sex/always trying to hook me up/pressuring me'... well, welcome to being human in general. you don't have to be disinterested in sex to have someone try to push you into having it. if you don't want it, you don't want it. someone always thinks they know better. whether you're waiting for marriage or for the right person or you just don't like it that much or it means more to you than just flings, you're likely going to get pressured to either settle down or be with someone. that's not something specific to asexuals. you aren't getting persecuted for using the 'wrong bathroom' or for not looking feminine/masculine enough. you just don't like sex/don't want it.

gay asexuals have a bit more basis because while they're still not interested in having sex, they identify as not wanting to have sex with their preferred gender, which is the same as theirs. they're gay, they're just also asexual (though, i have no idea why asexuals do anything. i've seen posts somewhere about asexuals having furious needs to masturbate and i just... doesn't that defeat the point?)

Libido =/= attraction

I mean, me being horny doesn't have anything about me attracted to something. Kind of like how guys can legit get hard if a breeze passes their dick the right way.

that's what they were saying

yeah, but asexuals talk about sex like the mere thought of it is gross. eww. sex. with genitals. that's disgusting. most asexuals talk like their libido doesn't exist and therefore they're persecuted when people try to make them have sex. they 'sacrifice' themselves when they're in a relationship for their partner, having sex when they don't want to.

so basically, if you have no libido, you're asexual. if you're fapping off every day all day, you're not an asexual. you just have no idea what/who you're attracted to. maybe you're a dog fucker. maybe you like fleshlights. maybe you only really get off when you're humping a tree. i don't know. but if you get off and have a libido at all, you are not an asexual. you can be attracted with no libido, but if sex comes into play at all, even with yourself, you pretty much negate the whole aspect of being Asexual.

not all asexuals are sex-repulsed though. not that they want sex, but the mere thought of sex or someone mentioning sex doesn't necessarily mean they're going to throw a big hissy fit over it.

and yet so many of them do

That's totally not what asexuality is though. It has nothing to do with having sex, it has to do with sexual attraction. Asexual people feel toward both/all genders/sexes that way gay people feel about the opposite and straight people feel about their own, which is not interested. No amount of having or not having sex suddenly makes an asexual person feel sexual attraction, just like someone gay or straight having sex with the opposite/same gender/sex respectively suddenly changes who they're attracted to.

i think there's confusion because people do use it both ways - there are people who call themselves asexual because they don't experience attraction, and there are people who call themselves asexual because they're sex-repulsed. onlookers who have trouble imagining the first case tend to conflate them.

I hadn't thought about that but yeah, you're right, that actually makes a lot of sense.

This attitude pisses me off.

If you want to have sex, you're not asexual. It doesn't matter who it's with or who it's not with.

Asexual people don't want to have sex.

Except lack of sexual attraction, not lack of sexual activity, is the actual definition. It can piss you off all you want but that doesn't make you right.

Says AVEN. That doesn't make it right wen none of you can define "sexual attraction" because you think everyone "allosexual" is like a horny teenager from bad movies who wants to fuck everyone they see constantly.

Except only a few idiots think that, but for some reason people seem to be super obsessed with the idea that asexual people care how much sex other people are or aren't having. But since you seem to believe that orientation DOES have to do with how much and what kind of sex you're having, it's not that surprising.

And don't be purposefully obtuse. Sexual attraction isn't a complicated concept: it's the difference in how you feel about someone you're attracted to versus someone you're not. If you're straight, it's the difference between how you feel about someone attractive of the opposite sex and how you feel about someone attractive of the same sex. Etc etc with different specifics for different orientations. And, in case it wasn't TOTALLY OBVIOUS, sexual attraction =/= sexual activity, which comes back to the whole point of this conversation in that who you're attracted to (or not) doesn't always have anything to do with whether or not you have sex.

uh huh so why do all "asexual" people who have sex conveniently have sex with people they're attracted to and usually of only one gender if they're not sexually attracted to them, and how do they pick out the person they want to have sex with if they aren't interested in having sex with them?

fuck if you're a man and you constantly want to have "asexual sex" with women because you think they're "a-sexy" then you're straight, bro

do you think a guy liking pegging makes him gay

do you think a straight person who isn't in the mood is temporarily asexual

do you think enjoying the use of a dildo makes you attracted to dildos

i could go on, but the point is that you're using inane logic because you think everyone must experience sexuality the way you do, despite having people sitting here telling you they don't

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Asexual people feel toward both/all genders/sexes that way gay people feel about the opposite and straight people feel about their own, which is not interested.

wat. you can be gay and asexual my dude. there are plenty of asexual people who are romantically interested in the same gender but still have no desire to do the horizontal tango

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wouldn't that be "homoromantic asexual", tho?

homoromantic = gay

+ splitting into romantic/sexual orientation is something that a lot of people aren't comfortable doing, since it's mostly wielded by straight asexuals who want to talk about how they're being oppressed by the icky allosexuals

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"lack of sexual attraction" being what defines asexual and th split attraction model are exactly the kind of bullshit that has led to people to saying they want to have sex but they aren't really attracted people, or people saying they're heteroromantic bisexual

if you want to have sex, you're not asexual, regardless of how much sex you're having.

Except you're wrong, and just because you don't like it doesn't make you right.

Sparkle-whatevers always exist and just because someone on tumblr or anywhere else says they're some silly thing that makes no sense doesn't suddenly change what asexuality is.

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