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I've got a ship partner that, lately, has been tagging far too slow for me to really be enjoying it as much as I used to be and has never seemed to be incredibly interested in the ship anyway. Over the past few weeks I've been contemplating asking her about it and seeing if I can go look for someone else to play the ship with (at the same time as to not hurt her feelings), but I just didn't for whatever reason, and this morning she brought it up herself.

Apparently she's had some really rough problems with suicidal depression and she's afraid of people leaving. So this... makes me feel hesitant about looking for someone else to play my ship with, even though I'll still be playing it with her.

Should I go do it anyway because I just really want someone who is more invested in the ship than her, or should I keep my trap shut and be happy about what I do have considering the ship's a fucking shiny pidgey and it's not like anybody else is going to play it anyway?

i think maybe you should stop thinking about roleplay and maybe be there for your suicidal friend

I would, except she doesn't want anyone to talk to her. She explicitly states that she doesn't want people talking to her for the time being.

... the fuck is wrong with you?

A lot of things, but what precisely are you referring to that I didn't explain above?

make a new account for your character without your name attached

and or play your ship incognito in a locked muse box or something

this^^

If "it's not like anybody else is going to play it anyway," why are you looking for somebody else to play it? That makes no sense.

Either way, you aren't responsible for her emotional state so keep on keepin' on.

To be honest, it's more or less me telling myself I should shut up and be happy about what I do have, I guess.

tbh if i wasn't feeling all that excited about rping with her and then she dropped the depression/suicidal/eceryone leaves me because they hate me or i suck/don't leave me like those other assholes! bomb, that would completely kill any desire i had to tag with her. i'd either break it off with her completely during a serious talk or slowly distance myself from her until we had no more communication.

i know it sounds harsh, but unless that person is someone i consider an actual, close friend (not just an internet acquaintance), i'd slowly but steadily get the fuck out of there.

i'm no therapist, i'm here for playing. if that isn't happening in a way that works for both parties, i'm out.

Thank fuck I feel kinda justified for thinking this way now.

I think I'll slowly distance myself once I find someone else to play the ship. That might take a while, anyhow.

and i will say that even if this were a close friend that "i'm afraid of people leaving" rings alarm bells for me

they may truly feel this way, but that line is one that is used to trap people intentionally or not in black hole relationships

i wonder if this is someone i know because i had to do this a few years ago with one of my rp partners

emotional manipulation tbh

i don't understand why you can't just... play with two people... you don't have to leave your original rp partner in order to tag with someone else?

if the pairing or canon is obscure, you have to do a lot of searching/advertising before you find someone to play it out with. some people, especially those with a low self-esteem, take that not as a sign of some innocent issue (like being very slow/too slow for op), but as an indicator that THEY SUCK and OP, NO, EVERYBODY HATES THEM -- particularly if the way they find out about it is seeing op ask for other writing partners for the exact same thing they play with them.

also, and no offense, but judging from the post and replies here, op seems to be on the more socially inept side as well. which, y'know, needs to be considered.

No offense taken. Fully aware I'm not very socially inclined. I do try, but haha, I know I still have issues to work out.

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