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my boyfriend approached me with something like this; i understand that you're not trying to ~*~fix~*~ him and that by closing himself off when stressed/upset you mean that he's giving you the silent treatment instead of talking stuff out. i'm guessing you just want to support him and it seems like he doesn't trust you enough to open up to you.

talk to him about it. i honestly didn't realize i was shutting my boyfriend out/being PA when i was stressed until he confronted me about it. the thing is, you can't demand he talk to you about his problems (i don't like sharing what's bothering me, and it has nothing to do with trust), but you can tell him how his problems end up affecting you and your relationship. i don't think it's as clear-cut as some people are saying; i still don't personally understand the appeal of it, but i've started opening up more emotionally since he asked, and he respects my need to be alone and understands it's not his fault. relationships are about communication and (reasonable) compromise, anon.

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