look at the taken list and comb through everyone's permissions and kink lists. you do not want to learn the hard way that you will not be smut-compatible with most of the game. some examples of what i mean:

1. the character you want to app is barely 18 years old, but more than half of characters will only thread smut with partners who are 20+.

2. you want to thread smut with female characters, but you don't want to thread with teens, and the majority of female characters in the game are under 20.

3. you play a violent character who can regenerate and getting to play hard kink is important to you, but only 5 people in the game have gore in their "yes" column and only 3 of them have compatible preferences. (keep in mind that all three of these characters may drop within months of you joining.)

do not join a sex game if you're not comfortable playing in an environment where dubcon/noncon happens. even if you play a sex-positive character who will gladly fuck without the jamjar gods telling them to, they will still be surrounded by dubcon in the form of characters ingesting aphro and being put in uncomfortable situations.