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oh, dreamwidth park is lonely in the dark/all the horny memes have no tag-outs

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idk i think by playing you're automatically part of the community. sharing pictures of pets and talking about the weather doesn't really contribute.

i'm in the same boat as you and while most people have been chill with sticking to threading and the occasional plotting DM, i have had people get weird and PA at me about it before and start... i don't know how to describe it, start trying to chat at me thru those plotting dms instead. it was weird as hell

sousaphone has theirs over here! https://sousaphone.dreamwidth.org/16265.html

If someone blocked me I would definitely take that as a sign to quietly avoid their direction unless they continued tagging into my threads, and even that would be a bit of a headscratcher. At least they like my writing?

i would love and appreciate paid time to this account!

Most of these aren't licensed save for the last one, which was probably why the poster went with the Japanese titles, but you can find fan translations under the titles My Girlfriend's Not Here Today, A Face You Shouldn't Show, Destroy It All and Love Me In Hell!, and the Kitanai Kimi ga Ichiban Kawaii fan translation just didn't translate the title. The last one named is Yuri Is My Job! and the manga and anime are both officially available in English.

nope, although i do find you can generally signal that without being overtly blunt ( saying something like 'i don't hang out on socials much' vs 'i explicitly don't want to friend you on plurk' ) and that helps them save face, which is most of what the over-the-top negative reactions are about. no one likes to be outright rejected.

some of us don't have or want socials. i don't want to use plurk or make a discord to write, but if i enjoy someone's writing i'll tag them forever! i just don't like to hurt feelings, but i won't budge on it and it seems that i put someone off. nothing i can do about it, though. you are right, and i try not to be rude ever, because i am never assuming someone is coming from a bad or annoying place when they try to talk to me. i recognize it's a positive thing, i just don't want to do it.

i like the input i've gotten in this thread and will just accept it will lose me some partners.

i've never minded chatty, friendly types. i think it's sweet, i just am... not, and don't want that as a part of my hobby. most have been understanding, but yeah, i've gotten the occasional pa stuff too or outright accusations and confrontations. or people outright ignoring me when i've spelled it out that i'm only here to plot.

i think they get embarrassed. i am lucky i have a wonderful thread partner for two years now that literally just said "okay!" when i told them i didn't want to be hit up and chatted at throughout the thread. i appreciate that they're obviously extroverted but understood. they know i love their tags through consistent tagging and occasional subject line compliments.

i understand that and that i will lose good writers with my boundary. that's okay, as long as there's no rudeness.

these examples are definitely valid and i have always avoided doing that, and take care not to. i don't want to just bluntly say it when someone is striking up friendly query, but when it's a lot i usually have to lay it down. i try to be kind but firm.

welcome!! :)

picking up someone new to play was the best decision

can you tell me WHY you don't want to talk outside of plotting? my partner was like that too and it always made me curious

that said, they didn't have to reject me because i could tell they didn't want to be friendly so i respected their boundaries

i am sure it's different for everyone, but in my case: 1) it gets in the way of writing for me, when i begin to think of a social aspect rather than pure craft. 2) i am just busy, and i don't want to have to keep up a friendship on top of keeping up a thread. 3) i have plenty of social life outside of rp, so i don't feel the need to have more.

it's never had to do with how talented the person is or even how excited the thread makes me. i am just like any other nerd, and when i get a tag i love, i am smiling about it all day and can't wait to tag back. i just have no desire for making social media accounts or having to check in, unless we are informing each other of a life event that will explain some silence/slowness.

+1

i'm not a very chatty person in general. i don't mind a comment here or there about something, but for the most part, i just can't handle the social weight of a discord or plurk or online chat program needing to be on all the time and not knowing or being able to properly explain that i'm just popping in for a minute and i'm not really there to chit chat. i might be capable of boomeranging or doing rapid tags, but outside of that, i'm trying to do other things; read, watch something, cook, deal with my life. the social obligation of trying to chat online when that's not something i do in general is just too much for me, and i wind up feeling anxious and just avoiding it because someone will mention i haven't been online in awhile or that i didn't reply to something. kudos to anyone who has the mental fortitude or energy to always be online/sociable, but that is not me. i love my tags. i love playing my characters. however, i find talking a scene to death draining, and i never really got into the whole fandom hype thing, so i don't like fanvids or long talks about fandom. that's too much for me.

i do the 'been busy/sick/out of commission' type update if i've been gone long, but other than that, i don't want to be someone's bff on here. i don't have the comfort level to be someone's social support or to feel comfortable with expectations beyond 'will tag back'.

i mean, i never talk outside of plotting/rp on any of my meme or bakerstreet stuff (the brunt of my threading right now and for the past few years), and no one seems to mind. i just make sure on my side to soften the blow. i think that's what it comes down to, honestly, and it sounds as if you're doing your best to achieve that. possibly review how you go about it, if it's still not working out, though it's just as easily as likely that maybe i've just had the good luck of not running into hypersensitive people.

in my personal experience, a polite 'i don't really use plurk/discord/whatever these days, but thank you for offering!' does the trick.

like you conclude, the people who need continuous ooc interaction to stay engaged in a thread will self select out after a point, and that's just the nature of the beast. i find that kind of chatter exhaustive and to a certain extent performative, so i know the drain on my personal resources wouldn't be offset by an additional thread. which sounds amazingly cold and reductive, but is what it is.

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not op, but also someone who doesn't chitchat outside of threading: some folks get energy and hype out of ooc chatter surrounding their threads, and that's totally valid. i'm part of a category that finds the social upkeep exhaustive, because i'm effectively having to take loans out of my social energy bank on the daily for irl work and errands, and i'm near depletion by the time i hit up my hobbies. this is why i rp online, rather than taking up different, more social hobbies: i like the optionality of not needing to be heavily social. i can effectively rp a social person for you and chitchat, but it's oing to cut out of my rp time at that point, so you can pick between more thread responses or more ooc chatter, basically.

ayrt

exactly this for me. i can absolutely love something and feel deeply about a scene or dynamic, but i express that by writing it, not talking about it. i hope my love and appreciation shines through that way, but otherwise i have a job, a partner, and many friends i like to spend time with irl. and all of them respect the fact that i am often a quiet person, even in my creativity.

i hope others don't feel unappreciated. i am still inspired by people's writing and characterization, and tagging great cr is a joy of mine. but the social aspect will just never appeal to me.

it really feels like another commitment altogether, and another form of rp, yeah. plus, i never want to thread to keep up someone's interest or friendship or have them be invested in fluctuations of my sociability or looking into taking it personally. i am here to write, and that's exciting enough for me. it sustains my battery while talking drains it.

you're right on the softness, and i try very much to be. once, i think i was too harsh to a very talkative thread partner of mine, and i felt exhausted and trampled early on. but they took it like a champ, kept on tagging me, and left me alone otherwise. obviously were not as sensitive as i feared. to this day they're up there as my favorite person to tag, even if we couldn't be more opposite in sociability, i'm grateful i didn't lose them. if i could turn back time, i would have been softer and i try to be now.

im with you on this anon, i don't hold it against ppl who don't wanna talk ooc, but personally i'll prob not seek out further threads w ppl who i can't be friends with ooc

Not a suggestion, necessarily, but where on Earth do people find PBs these days now that Hollow Art is evidently dead for good?

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