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this reply is indicative of how some cultures can't get over the idea that everyone needs to hear their opinion all of the time, whether the other party has asked for it or not. if nobody is getting hurt and all OP wants is to continue to not have to engage to this person, then not engaging with them is an appropriate answer, especially if OP is right at direct engagement will end up hurting more people than it helps.

man you really twisted yourself into knots to justify being a passive shithead, huh?

if the other anon doesn't want to be the one to approach first, that's fair. but if the other player approaches them, they need to tell them they don't want to be approached, anon. period. any other option makes you the asshole.

Not necessarily. What you say makes perfect sense for someone who plays from a popular canon and has to make little effort to get CR. It makes less sense for someone who plays an obscure character and gets very little CR without reaching out first to opt out in advance when chances are much better that person will have a mutual lack of interest.

"if the other anon doesn't want to be the one to approach first, that's fair. but if the other player approaches them, they need to tell them they don't want to be approached, anon. period. any other option makes you the asshole."

this reply is indicative of how some cultures can't get over the idea that everyone needs to hear their opinion all of the time

i am puzzled as to how this remotely applies to this situation. op asked for opinions. people gave it.

that refers to ayrt's criticism that the other replies are indicative of DWRP avoiding communucation, not about OP wanting opinions

it's not true that not wanting to potentially start an argument or hurt someone is any worse than deciding to just avoid them. every case should be assessed on its own merits.

rpa has adopted a stance recently that if you don't want to talk to someone you're an "anxiety chihuahua" who deserves what's coming to them. I disagree.

da personally speaking, i think telling someone that you're disinterested in cr asap is the kindest option, as long as you word it with tact. if you ignore a tag in a game, you leave the other person wondering where you stand. did i write a bad tag? did the other person get busy? are notifs down? should i contact them or let it go? etc, etc. not the we worst thing in the world, but not the best, either. meanwhile, if they just tell me that they aren't interested in cr, i'll be disappointed, but i'll be able to get over it much quicker. it's like ripping off a bandaid.

sure, but you're missing the part where OP said they doubted this person in question would take that criticism so lightly. as we've all seen in these anon comms, you can't always count on someone to act reasonably about that sort of request.

keep on moving that goalpost

keep on wilfully misreading what you're supposed to be responding to

OP said: (knowing that they might kick off over it because they seem like an unstable person)

and yet a bunch of anons are telling them to get in contact anyway, regardless of the fact that it sounds like a bad idea. OP wanted opinions and my opinion is that OP shouldn't have to deal with someone else's potential temper tantrum just to seem polite.

ayrt: people need to communicate more
you: people who think that need to get over themselves
other anon: op was giving their opinion
you: sure, but it's not true that avoiding someone is worse than talking to them
other anon: it feels worse to be avoided
you: sure, but...

OP: I think this person will cause drama if I contact them
anons: contact them anyway otherwise you're the asshole

see, we can both do it.

how is that moving the goalpost?

oh right, it's not.

???

ok, do you want me to keep replying or are you happy to keep arguing with this strawman you're building by yourself?

I think it is a big assumption that this person won't kick off over clearly having their tags ignored. The upside of OP waiting to be approached and then politely turning the person they want to avoid down is that OP has made their wishes clear and behaved graciously, and they're pretty clearly in the right if the person tagging them does try and start trouble about it. Some people might still disagree, but I think most other players and mods in the hobby would agree OP had behaved kindly and maturely.

that's just their opinion. in truth, this person hasn't actually done anything yet. but good try

rpa's need to make up headcanon about a situation they don't know anything about strikes again

ngl, i'm getting pretty uncomfortable with you coming in associating players with characters by indicating that 'possible scenarios' are headcanon. not sure if you know this, but that makes you come off like you're blurring ic/ooc of dwrp as a whole.

someone's life isn't 'headcanon'. stop it. you sound off kilter.

you're taking an offhand joke on an anon meme waaaaay too seriously anon. tough day?

yes and no. i really am tired of this 'headcanon for op' thing that's been cropping up lately. it's annoying. it's not a joke. it's a turn of phrase that i don't like the implication of. please use something else. 'why are you putting words in op's mouth' is much more relevant and true to form than 'headcanoning op'.

actually I'm going to start using it more often just to specifically keep annoying you, anon

my headcanon for you is that you really just need to go and do your tags or take a walk or something

it...it literally is a joke

it's a joke that people are inventing elaborate unstated scenarios for anon comments to justify a viewpoint

nobody's associating players with characters you moron.

then don't use a stupid rp specific phrase, you mook.

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(Anonymous) - 2020-05-30 23:00 (UTC) - Expand

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(Anonymous) - 2020-05-30 23:18 (UTC) - Expand

op literally asked what other people would do in this situation, you dingus

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