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rpanons2020-05-12 07:47 pm
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rpanons is an anonymous community for role-play related topics. This place serves as a forum for game discussions, canon discussions, RP solicitations (ATP, game ads, open memes), and advice. The occasional off topic comment is inevitable, but please keep heated social and political topics to their respective communities. Posting them here will only get them frozen. Subsequent threads made to bypass a freeze will then be deleted.Rules:
Do not post pornographic or shocking images.
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Do not use this community as your social/political/hatespeech soapbox.
Do not be redundant. One page does not need three or more threads on one topic/theme. Your unfunny, forced memes also fall under this rule.
Do not treat this comm like your personal therapist. Threads about nonfictional suicide, self injury, rape, and abuse will be deleted. There are better resources out there for you.
Do not treat this comm like your personal Plurk or Twitter. Off-topic happens, but it should be open for discussion and not just a play-by-play of your life. No one cares.
Shut up about Tumblr. If it's not a discussion about Tumblr RP it will be deleted.
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Re: RP WOES
(Anonymous) 2020-05-20 09:50 pm (UTC)(link)Please remember that grief affects everyone differently. Just because other members of your family have resumed their routines doesn't mean that they are okay or have moved on. Some people find returning to their routine to be a safe haven and something normal, and some do so because it's a coping mechanism—it's familiar... or they have no other choice but to resume their normal way of life. Your life has changed. The normal that existed before this unfortunate death isn't the normal anyone truly returns to in the after.
Please don't compare yourself to others. You are you, your grief and the way you cope is different, and I really wish for you to be kind to yourself. Tagging may seem like the easiest thing to do, but it's not! And that's okay. It's okay for you to struggle to do short tags, it's okay for you not to struggle at all. How you are, what you're capable of right now, and what you can do is okay. You may not have the capacity to tag and that's totally fine. I didn't, and anyone who holds that against me doesn't deserve my time. Grief is something that's so personal and unique, and it can be so hollowing and heavy and difficult to parse. It's not something that disappears overnight.
I know it's easier said than done, but don't push yourself. You're going through something so emotionally rough and incredibly difficult, and you are doing the best you can at the moment. Be kind to yourself. Be proud of the fact you got out of bed (I am)! That's a big accomplishment given what you're going through right now.
If people in this hobby hold your grief against you for not tagging back their pretendy fun times, it's not them who deserve better, it's you.
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(Anonymous) 2020-05-20 09:58 pm (UTC)(link)thank you for putting this so eloquently anon, I wanted to say something along these lines but could not phrase it well.
I am so sorry for your losses. please, please, take all the time you need and if any internet rando holds it against you because you couldn't commit to RP for it that is on them and not you. if you need to break or hiatus because of it then do so. make the time for yourself and don't compare yourself to how anyone else is handling it. if people in your RL are giving you shit over it too then they need to get over themselves. take the time you need to process, that is a person shaped hole in your life and that is unfair.