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consider that they're probably dealing with irl things due to covid like most of the world is right now before approaching them.

i know, that's part of why i don't know how to approach them.

what i was getting at is that you probably shouldn't approach them unless they haven't told you at all what's going on. if they've already communicated their absence is due to the pandemic, leave them alone. if not, simply asking them how they are and that you're wondering how they're doing would suffice.

oh okay. well they have not said they're not around due to the pandemic. and i do ask them how they're doing. they give the usual answer that they're okay and i tell them they can talk to me if anything's going on but they say there isn't. so i'm just at a loss of what to do now other than get over myself. which i will, but idk i just needed to vent about it.

if they're anything like me, they prefer to deal with their problems without help from friends, though i'm sure they can appreciate you reaching out. either way, at this point it's better to let them come to you. it's probably not anything that you specifically did.

thank you anon. giving them space and letting them come to me is what i've been doing so i'll just keep up with that.

i know in my head that it's probably nothing to do with me because they are very open with me, but my mental health has taken a hit during the pandemic so it's harder to be rational and not get emotional about it.

i hope i didn't sound too harsh or anything. i've just seen a lot of people complaining their rp has slowed down and as someone else who's had to distance myself from everything including my friends due to stress, i've been getting a little annoyed. not accusing you of doing that, since you seem to be understanding, but yeah.

i think most people's emotional and mental health is all over the place right now. you're not alone.

no it's alright, i understand why that would be frustrating. it kinda sucks on both sides when the ways that you and other people cope with stress aren't very compatible.

but yeah sad low five for being mentally, emotionally, and spiritually fucked by covid.

da but this is definitely the case for me. i feel bad because i promised a couple of people starters but i've just been having the worst time working up the motivation to write them. it's not that i'm not interested in the characters or the threads, it's just that i feel drained creatively and i hate it. i end up sitting at my computer watching stupid youtube reaction videos instead of writing.

so it's probably nothing personal at all.

i would hope your partners understand that irl mental health comes before a hobby like rp. i'm sure they do... though we definitely have some people who are unhealthily obsessed with rp. i understand for some it's a way to cope via escapism, but it should never come at the cost of anything irl.

You were definitely projecting onto that anon. Just because they're talking about missing a friend doesn't mean that they're someone you know talking about you, Becky. You're stressed, and maybe you should socially distance yourself from rpa and go take a nice bath or something if you can.

talk about projection. calm down.

there are people who can have a civil conversation about a difficult but relatable topic, and there are dicks like you

there's literally nothing harsh or projecting about "if they're anything like me, they prefer to deal with their problems without help from friends, though i'm sure they can appreciate you reaching out. either way, at this point it's better to let them come to you. it's probably not anything that you specifically did."

you're being an oversensitive baby. maybe you need the bath.

As someone who has slowed down due to work ramping up and my own emotional exhaustion due to the state of the world, I know I wouldn't feel put out if someone came to me and say, "Hey, I've been thinking about you and I'm worried for you. Obviously, I miss you, but I know you're going through a lot! I'm here if you want to chat/if you need a distraction but I'm also going through it, and I just want you to know I'm here."

If you're strictly a RP bff, as in you only talk RP things and neither they nor you talk about RL things or personal feelings, then I would do what the other anon suggested and leave it in their court.

thank you very much for the advice anon. we are closer than just friends who talk rp, i just couldn't think of a non-awkward way of saying "my closest friend who isn't a friend i know irl and also i met them through rp" and ended up making it more awkward in the process...

but i'll try that. i have a hard time figuring out what to say because i don't want to come off as pushy or needy but i think this reads better than some of the half-written messages i've typed but never sent lmao

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