christ

tell your rp partner that if they have a problem with the *content* of your tags - ie, if the shorter length means there's not enough hooks, or the writing is so curt it's uninteresting - then they should give you crit you can work on. if it's purely a wordcount comparison issue? they need to stop projecting their insecurity onto you

I used to feel horrible if I didn't match my RP partner's tag length and you know what? I used to drop way more threads because I didn't *always* have that much to say. I'd write a perfectly good tag and then stall out nervously trying to make it bigger with nonsense that wasn't any good, because it was unnecessary

if you are consistently tagging them back with engaging writing, that is proof that you are interested.

I'm not deny that they might genuinely feel unappreciated, because anxiety brain is not logical, but that's a problem they need to work on (with encouragement and support from you, IF you are willing to give it/think it's reasonable), and not a feeling you should be enabling