one of my groups is really struggling to get off the ground despite my efforts to get things moving, so at this point i'm planning to just roll with my character not having found their group at all and spending the whole event alone. it's a bummer, but honestly? i'm looking forward to the fallout from after the event, where my character gets to meet up with their cr again and try to recover from the trauma.

plus like other anons have said, this will give me an idea of who to tag for new cr in the future. silver linings, i guess?

if someone doesn't tag your toplevel until after the event and you've already decided to go in a different direction, i'd pm the player and tell them they missed the window so you won't be tagging them back. it's a bit harsh maybe, but that's what they get for the radio silence.