so you would flake on purpose out of spite is what you're saying. yet you don't like it when they shop for someone who isn't going to flake because they already expect you to flake. what a self-defeating cycle that is.

if they flake on you first for someone else, that's one thing. but for you to backburner them as "punishment" when they were consistently tagging you back is just nonsensical. why do that to yourself?